Everyone has the desire to be desired, finally, in this episode, the mystery of desire is stripped back.

Dr Karen Gurney is a Clinical Psychologist, Psychosexologist and Couples Therapist, she has been helping couples tackle sex problems for over 20 years. She is the author of the bestselling book, ‘Mind The Gap: The truth about desire and how to future proof your sex life’.

In this conversation Karen and Steven discuss topics, such as the reasons for a dead sex life, why women prefer non-penetrative sex, how technology is killing your sex life, and why you should invest in your sexual currency.

Topics: 0:00 Intro 02:07 What Do You Do and Why Do You Do It? 03:56 Our Attention Is Being Hijacked Which Is Affecting Our Sex Lives 09:57 Why Does Sex Get Harder the More We Think About It 11:50 Why Expectations and Pressure Make Sex Worse 15:56 Our Society Has Created a "Sexual Script" That's Wrong 17:10 How to Talk About Sex with Your Partner 23:09 How to Tell Your Partner You're Not Attracted to Them Anymore 25:56 How to Not Let Kids Ruin Your Sex Life 27:25 The Demographic That Comes to You More Than Any Other 28:16 Why Desire Goes in a Relationship 34:13 How to Trigger Desire in Your Relationship 38:34 The "Initiation" Problem 40:21 Should We Schedule Sex? 43:05 What Should We Be Doing to Keep Desire High in Our Relationships 45:55 How to Talk About Your Fetish with Your Partner 50:54 What Women Really Want During Sex 52:45 Does It Matter Who Initiates Sex? 56:04 If Our Idea of What We Want From Sex Isn't Happening What Should We Do? 58:31 If Men Can't Get It Up, What Should We Do? 01:00:56 If Men Can't Get It Up, What Should We Do? 01:01:15 Should We Have Sex Before or After We Eat? 01:02:22 The Optimal Amount of Times to Have Sex 01:04:16 Sexual Dissatisfaction Between Men and Women 01:07:54 How to Deal with a Sex Life as a Parent 01:11:54 What You Can Do as a Parent to Ensure Your Sex Life Doesn't Go Off Track 01:13:26 The Relationship Between Poor Sleep and Sex 01:16:39 At What Point Should People Reach Out to You? 01:17:21 Have You Ever Seen Relationships That Are Unrecoverable? 01:18:45 The Top 3 Most Common Sexual Problems 01:20:46 The Impact of Pets on Our Sex Lives 01:22:43 Are You Hopeful for the Future of Sex? 01:24:04 How Menopause Affects Our Sex Lives 01:25:21 Our Bodies Changing Over Time and How That Impacts Our Sex Lives 01:26:27 Are We Meant to Be Monogamous? 01:31:51 The Last Guest’s Question

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Release date

Lydbog: 19. februar 2024