Susan Piver on The Four Noble Truths of Love

Susan Piver is a New York Times bestselling author of 9 books and a renowned Buddhist teacher. This is Susan's second time on the show because we love her and her work so much. Her new book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships walks us through the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism as they apply to relationships. You don't have to be a Buddhist or study Buddhism to get a lot out of this conversation and her new book. She teaches universal pieces of wisdom that, when applied, will grow and deepen and enrich your relationships to a whole new level.

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In This Interview, Susan Piver and I Discuss...

• Her book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships •

• The emotions underneath fear, hatred and greed

• Depression being a calcified sadness

• Turning towards sadness

• The four noble truths of love: Relationships are uncomfortable, Thinking that they should be comfortable contributes to that uncomfortableness, Meeting the discomfort and instability together IS love, There's a threefold path to do all of this

• Feeling your feelings without the story - what does it feel like in your body? In the environment?

• The difference between anger and irritation in the body

• The enormous space that opens up when we drop the expectation that when we solve "this" problem, the relationship will stabilize and we'll be happy

• Look at the problem itself as a team in relationships rather than blaming one another

• The threefold path: Precision, Openness, Going beyond

• The role and importance of good manners and honesty in relationships

• Good manners = thinking of the other person and making some accommodation, some space for them in your actions and your words

• Opening to the other person as they are in a relationship

• Intimacy has no end, it can always go deeper. You can always reveal more and you can always discover more

• In a relationship, commit to intimacy over love

• Addiction and abuse not included in this picture of relationship!

• How you can't think your way into intimacy or inspiration - they come when you make the space

• Passion between two people will constantly arise, abide and dissolve and though difficult, this is not a problem

• Wishing you were in a different part of the cycle is a problem, however

• Relax with what is and a space will open up

• Her take on suffering

• Her beautiful explanation of the concept of non-attachment/detachment

• A spiritual practice frees people up to feel everything in the moment, as it is

• Your life IS the spiritual path

• In meditation we're not trying to get anywhere, we're trying to BE somewhere

• Meditating in't about focusing on something but rather, bringing the brain down from some dreamworld into reality in the moment

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