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• Are You Playing a Game You Actually Want to Win? | Seth GodinAre you playing a game you actually want to win? In this episode, Seth Godin explores how to make intentional choices about the life you’re building—and recognize when someone else’s definition of success is steering you off course. Drawing on his book, This Is Strategy, Seth shares why chasing more can distract us from what matters, how the systems around us shape our behavior, and why a disappointing outcome doesn’t necessarily mean we made a bad decision. Good Wolf RemindersA little wisdom, right when you need it. Start receiving free text reminders designed to help you pause, reflect, and take meaningful action. Sign up at oneyoufeed.net/sms. Key Takeaways: Why strategy matters in everyday life, beyond business and career goals How to recognize the systems shaping your choices—and find opportunities to act differently Why measuring the wrong things can pull you away from the change you want to make How to shift your attention from achieving more to doing work that matters The difference between a good decision and a good outcome How to think about whether to keep going or change your approach Why community helps us sustain meaningful change How today’s choices shape the person you’re becoming For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Seth Godin, check out these other episodes: How to Integrate Behavior Change with Your Values with Spencer Greenberg How to Get Unstuck with Adam Alter How to Think More Clearly and Make Better Decisions with Shane Parrish This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Ka’Chava ⁠⁠⁠⁠is your daily all-in-one shake, with protein, fiber, greens, superfoods, vitamins, minerals, omega-3s, probiotics, and more. Go to⁠⁠⁠⁠ KaChava.com ⁠⁠⁠⁠and use code FEED for 15% off your first order. ⁠⁠⁠⁠David Protein⁠⁠⁠⁠ bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• The Mattering Effect: Finding Your Way Back to Meaning and Connection | John MilesIn this episode, John Miles explores the mattering effect and how to find your way back to meaning and connection when you feel invisible in your own life. Drawing on his experience of achieving career success while feeling increasingly disconnected, John explains how we can slowly lose our sense of worth when life becomes a constant effort to prove our value. He also discusses how to recognize that gradual withdrawal, reconnect with the meaning in everyday actions, and make more room for relationships that help us feel seen. This conversation offers a starting point for anyone who’s getting things done but struggling to feel fully present in the life they’re living. Good Wolf RemindersA little wisdom, right when you need it. Start receiving free text reminders designed to help you pause, reflect, and take meaningful action. Sign up at oneyoufeed.net/sms. Key Takeaways: Why feeling like you matter involves both feeling valued and knowing you make a difference How the “slow fade” can leave you physically present but emotionally absent in your own life The importance of belonging, having a say, and feeling safe enough to be yourself How connecting everyday tasks to what you care about can restore a sense of meaning Why reclaiming your choices starts with questioning the expectations you’ve been living by How protecting time for meaningful relationships helps interrupt the cycle of disconnection For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with John Miles, check out these other episodes: How to Unlock Your Potential and Strategies for Intentional Living with John MilesLearning to Take Action for a Meaningful Life with Gregg Krech This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠Ka’Chava ⁠⁠⁠is your daily all-in-one shake, with protein, fiber, greens, superfoods, vitamins, minerals, omega-3s, probiotics, and more. Go to⁠⁠⁠ KaChava.com ⁠⁠⁠and use code FEED for 15% off your first order. ⁠⁠⁠David Protein⁠⁠⁠ bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠⁠www.davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• How to Stop Feeling Bad About Feeling Bad | Mariana AlessandriIn this episode, Mariana Alessandri explores how to stop feeling bad about feeling bad, and why difficult emotions don’t mean there is something wrong with you. Drawing from her book, Night Vision: Seeing Ourselves Through Dark Moods, she discusses how the pressure to stay positive adds shame to pain, what it means to be on your own side, and how to support someone who’s struggling without trying to cheer them up. This conversation offers a more compassionate way to understand your emotions and feel less alone in them. Feeling overwhelmed in your life? Check out ⁠⁠Overwhelm is Optional ⁠⁠— a 4-week email course that helps you feel calmer and more grounded without needing to do less. In under 10 minutes a day, you’ll learn simple mindset shifts (called “Still Points”) you can use right inside the life you already have. ⁠⁠Sign up here for only $29!⁠ Key Takeaways: How judging yourself for difficult emotions adds another layer of suffering Why the pressure to “choose happiness” can leave you feeling ashamed when you’re struggling What changes when you ask “What’s wrong?” instead of “What’s wrong with me?” How listening to anger and other uncomfortable emotions can help you understand what you need Why accepting emotional pain can coexist with wanting relief from it How to support someone through grief or sadness without demanding that they feel better For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Mariana Alessandri, check out these other episodes: How Identity Can Affect How You Deal with Depression with Kimi Culp Gabe Howard on Mental Illness This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠Ka’Chava ⁠⁠is your daily all-in-one shake, with protein, fiber, greens, superfoods, vitamins, minerals, omega-3s, probiotics, and more. Go to⁠⁠ KaChava.com ⁠⁠and use code FEED for 15% off your first order. ⁠⁠David Protein⁠⁠ bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠⁠www.davidprotein.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• The Quiet Age: How to Find Calm When Life Won’t Slow Down | Cory AllenIn this episode, Cory Allen explores how to find calm when life won’t slow down and the pressure to keep doing more feels constant. Drawing from his new book, The Quiet Age, Cory shares how the tension we carry shapes our experience and why low moods can tell convincing lies about our self-worth. He also discusses letting go without giving up, making room for rest, and recognizing that a thought can feel real without being true. This conversation offers practical ways to meet difficult moments with greater clarity and find space to breathe within the life you already have. Feeling overwhelmed in your life? Check out ⁠⁠Overwhelm is Optional ⁠⁠— a 4-week email course that helps you feel calmer and more grounded without needing to do less. In under 10 minutes a day, you’ll learn simple mindset shifts (called “Still Points”) you can use right inside the life you already have. ⁠⁠Sign up here for only $29!⁠ Key Takeaways: How to recognize the everyday tension that makes small frustrations feel overwhelming The difference between accepting a difficult situation and resigning yourself to it Why rest supports progress—and how to loosen the pressure to always do more How low moods turn temporary feelings into damaging stories about who you are How returning to your values can help you separate your self-worth from your accomplishments Why mental clarity comes from changing your relationship with thoughts rather than trying to eliminate them For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Cory Allen, check out these other episodes: How to Shift Your Mindset and Believe More is Possible with Cory Allen Mindfulness and Understanding Identity with Cory Allen How to Feel Lighter with Yung Pueblo This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Ka’Chava ⁠is your daily all-in-one shake, with protein, fiber, greens, superfoods, vitamins, minerals, omega-3s, probiotics, and more. Go to⁠ KaChava.com ⁠and use code FEED for 15% off your first order. ⁠David Protein⁠ bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to ⁠www.davidprotein.com/FEED⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• Enough as You Are: How to Grow Without Shaming Yourself | Scott StabileIn this episode, Scott Stabile discusses how to be enough as you are and how to grow without shaming yourself. He explores how self-love and self-acceptance can support meaningful change, as well as how to practice self-compassion when it feels out of reach, recognize the small ways you already care for yourself, and loosen the grip of other people’s judgments. Drawing from his book Enough as You Are, Scott offers practical ways to build a more loving relationship with yourself, even when you’re struggling, making mistakes, or wishing you were further along. ⁠A Weekly Bite of Wisdom:⁠ Want to go deeper with the ideas we explore on The One You Feed? Every Wednesday, you’ll receive a short, practical email that turns insights about mental health, relationships, purpose, habits, and personal growth into simple practices you can use right away. You’ll also receive our Weekend Podcast Playlist that includes a recap of the week’s episodes with our featured guests. It’s free, takes about a minute to read, and is enjoyed by thousands of readers each week. Sign up at ⁠oneyoufeed.net/newsletter.⁠ Key Takeaways: How to recognize everyday acts of self-care as evidence that you’re already practicing self-love Why “I’m willing to love myself” can be more helpful than an affirmation you don’t believe How to accept yourself as you are while making choices that support growth What it means to have your own back, especially when you fail or face rejection How to work with envy and jealousy without adding shame to already difficult feelings Why your past disappointments don’t have to determine what’s possible for your future For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Scott Stabile, check out these other episodes: Choosing Love in a Divisive World: Empathy as Our Guiding Light with Scott Stabile Perfecting Self-Love with Scott Stabile This episode is sponsored by: Ka’Chava is your daily all-in-one shake, with protein, fiber, greens, superfoods, vitamins, minerals, omega-3s, probiotics, and more. Go to KaChava.com and use code FEED for 15% off your first order. David Protein bars deliver up to 28g of protein for just 150 calories—without sacrificing taste! For a limited time, our listeners can receive this special deal: buy 4 cartons and get the 5th free when you go to www.davidprotein.com/FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• How the Words You Choose Shape the Life You Live | Mark NepoIn this episode, Mark Nepo talks about how the words we use shape the way we experience our lives. Drawing on Mark’s new book The Language of the Soul, he explores how words can help us make room for pain and fear or make those experiences feel even bigger. Mark also discusses what it means to be wholehearted, why ordinary moments don’t have to feel extraordinary to matter, and how to return to a fuller sense of life when we’ve lost touch with it. A Weekly Bite of Wisdom: Want to go deeper with the ideas we explore on The One You Feed? Every Wednesday, you’ll receive a short, practical email that turns insights about mental health, relationships, purpose, habits, and personal growth into simple practices you can use right away. You’ll also receive our Weekend Podcast Playlist that includes a recap of the week’s episodes with our featured guests. It’s free, takes about a minute to read, and is enjoyed by thousands of readers each week. Sign up at oneyoufeed.net/newsletter. Key Takeaways: The words we choose can help us meet a difficult experience or intensify it. Being wholehearted means making room for the full range of feelings, including the ones we’d rather avoid. You don’t have to feel wonder in every ordinary moment for that moment to be worthwhile. When fear or pain narrows your view, relationships and practices can help you find a wider perspective. Acceptance can help you discern when to act and when to be patient. Returning to presence is a practice; losing touch with it doesn’t mean you’ve failed. For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Mark Nepo, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Discovering Your Inner Resilience and Strength with Mark Nepo Connecting to What Matters with Mark Nepo (2020) How to Strengthen Your Resilience with Linda Graham This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠Ka’Chava ⁠⁠is your daily all-in-one shake, with protein, fiber, greens, superfoods, vitamins, minerals, omega-3s, probiotics, and more. Go to⁠⁠ KaChava.com ⁠⁠and use code FEED for 15% off your first order. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Monarch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: Take control of your finances with Monarch, the all-in-one personal finance app that helps you budget, track spending, monitor investments, and work toward your financial goals. Get 50% off your first year of Monarch Core, go to https://www.monarch.com/ and enter Promo Code: FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/feed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ZocDoc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Taking care of your health just got easier – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠start here with Zocdoc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/feed.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠‘s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Make dinnertime easier with ButcherBox, delivering high-quality 100% grass-fed beef, organic chicken, wild-caught seafood, and more, right to your door. Get $20 off your first box, plus your choice of free ground beef for life or free chicken thighs or top sirloins for a year, with free shipping always. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to claim your offer. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ connects you with licensed psychiatrists for personalized, evidence-based mental health care, all online and covered by most major insurance plans. To get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry.com/FEED.⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• How to Start a New Chapter When You Think It’s Too Late | Sari BottonIn this episode, Sari Botton discusses how to start a new chapter when you think it’s too late and explains what happens when the life you expected stops making sense. At 54, writer and editor Sari Botton struggled to get interviews for jobs she was qualified for and feared her career was over. Now, at 60, she’s doing some of her most fulfilling work. In this episode, Sari and Eric talk about the realities of getting older, how to tell what deserves acceptance and what’s worth pushing back against, and why an unexpected crossroads can still lead somewhere good. ⁠Free Guide: Outsmart the Hidden Saboteurs of Self-Control.⁠ What’s been holding you back lately? In this free guide, Eric shares the six common saboteurs that quietly derail our best intentions—like autopilot behavior, self-doubt, and emotional escapism—and offers practical strategies to help you regain control and move forward. Download your free copy at ⁠oneyoufeed.net/ebook.⁠ Key Takeaways: Getting older can bring loss and new possibilities at the same time. You can accept changes in your body without accepting someone else’s limits on your life. A career setback may close one path while giving you room to create another. Rejection is part of pursuing creative work, but it can also be a reason to refine your approach. Taking one step can reveal options you couldn’t see from where you stood. You don’t have to have yourself completely figured out to begin again. For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Sari Botton, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Midlife Reinvention: How to Create Your Own Script for What Comes Next | Allison Aubrey The Midlife Makeover: Redefining Success and Happiness After 40 with Chip Conley Life Transitions with Bruce Feiler Successful Aging with Alan Castel This episode is sponsored by: ⁠Ka’Chava ⁠is your daily all-in-one shake, with protein, fiber, greens, superfoods, vitamins, minerals, omega-3s, probiotics, and more. Go to⁠ KaChava.com ⁠and use code FEED for 15% off your first order. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Monarch⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: Take control of your finances with Monarch, the all-in-one personal finance app that helps you budget, track spending, monitor investments, and work toward your financial goals. Get 50% off your first year of Monarch Core, go to https://www.monarch.com/ and enter Promo Code: FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/feed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ZocDoc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Taking care of your health just got easier – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠start here with Zocdoc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/feed.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠‘s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Make dinnertime easier with ButcherBox, delivering high-quality 100% grass-fed beef, organic chicken, wild-caught seafood, and more, right to your door. Get $20 off your first box, plus your choice of free ground beef for life or free chicken thighs or top sirloins for a year, with free shipping always. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to claim your offer. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ connects you with licensed psychiatrists for personalized, evidence-based mental health care, all online and covered by most major insurance plans. To get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry.com/FEED.⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• How to Find Joy Even When Life Is Hard | Diane ShifferIn this episode, Diane Shiffer, author of The Smallest of Joys, discusses how to find joy even when life is hard. She shares how small moments of beauty have helped her navigate anxiety, depression, grief, and uncertainty, and why joy and heartbreak don’t have to cancel each other out. Diane also explains her simple “sit and stare” practice, the freedom of accepting a seven-out-of-ten life, and how changing what we pay attention to can change the way we experience our lives. Free Guide: Outsmart the Hidden Saboteurs of Self-Control. What’s been holding you back lately? In this free guide, Eric shares the six common saboteurs that quietly derail our best intentions—like autopilot behavior, self-doubt, and emotional escapism—and offers practical strategies to help you regain control and move forward. Download your free copy at oneyoufeed.net/ebook. Key Takeaways: How to recognize and preserve the small moments that bring you joy Why pain and beauty can exist at the same time without diminishing each other How the simple “sit and stare” practice can create moments of calm during a stressful day Why accepting a seven-out-of-ten life can lead to greater contentment How to discover what genuinely lifts you instead of relying on what should make you happy Why self-kindness is often more effective than self-criticism when trying to make lasting changes How shifting your attention can help you experience more beauty without denying life’s difficulties For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Diane Shiffer, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Embracing the Messiness of Life: Finding Joy in Everyday Moments with Ross Gay How to Turn Life’s Pain into a Path of Meaning and Joy with Danielle LaPorte Finding Hope When Life Isn’t Okay and the Power of Micro Joys with Cyndie Spiegel This episode is sponsored by: Ka’Chava is your daily all-in-one shake, with protein, fiber, greens, superfoods, vitamins, minerals, omega-3s, probiotics, and more. Go to KaChava.com and use code FEED for 15% off your first order. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Monarch⁠⁠⁠⁠: Take control of your finances with Monarch, the all-in-one personal finance app that helps you budget, track spending, monitor investments, and work toward your financial goals. Get 50% off your first year of Monarch Core, go to https://www.monarch.com/ and enter Promo Code: FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/feed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ZocDoc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Taking care of your health just got easier – ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠start here with Zocdoc⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/feed.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠‘s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Make dinnertime easier with ButcherBox, delivering high-quality 100% grass-fed beef, organic chicken, wild-caught seafood, and more, right to your door. Get $20 off your first box, plus your choice of free ground beef for life or free chicken thighs or top sirloins for a year, with free shipping always. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to claim your offer. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ connects you with licensed psychiatrists for personalized, evidence-based mental health care, all online and covered by most major insurance plans. To get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry.com/FEED.⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• Why We Fight the Changes We Know We Need | Jonah BergerIn this episode, Jonah Berger explains why we fight the changes we know we need. Jonah explains why pushing harder, piling on more reasons, or simply telling ourselves what we “should” do can actually create more resistance. Instead, he shares how identifying and removing the barriers to change can make transformation easier and more sustainable. They explore why small steps are often more effective than dramatic ones, how to work with our natural resistance, the hidden cost of staying with what’s “good enough,” and how the people around us quietly shape our choices. ⁠Good Wolf Reminders⁠ A little wisdom, right when you need it. Start receiving free text reminders designed to help you pause, reflect, and take meaningful action. Sign up at ⁠oneyoufeed.net/sms.⁠ Key Takeaways: Why pushing harder can actually make change more difficult How identifying barriers can make change easier Why giving ourselves choices reduces resistance How to turn a “should” into something we actually want to do Why starting small can be more effective than making a dramatic change How noticing the gap between what we say and what we do can motivate change Why “good enough” can keep us stuck longer than something that’s clearly bad How the immediate costs of change can overshadow its long-term benefits Why other people influence our choices more than we realize How becoming aware of those influences helps us choose them more intentionally For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Jonah Berger, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Mimetic Desires in Everyday Life with Luke Burgis Effectively Thinking Ahead with Bina Venkataraman This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠⁠Monarch⁠⁠⁠: Take control of your finances with Monarch, the all-in-one personal finance app that helps you budget, track spending, monitor investments, and work toward your financial goals. Get 50% off your first year of Monarch Core, go to https://www.monarch.com/ and enter Promo Code: FEED ⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/feed⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ⁠⁠⁠⁠ZocDoc⁠⁠⁠⁠ – Taking care of your health just got easier – ⁠⁠⁠⁠start here with Zocdoc⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/feed.⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠‘s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox:⁠⁠⁠⁠ Make dinnertime easier with ButcherBox, delivering high-quality 100% grass-fed beef, organic chicken, wild-caught seafood, and more, right to your door. Get $20 off your first box, plus your choice of free ground beef for life or free chicken thighs or top sirloins for a year, with free shipping always. Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠ to claim your offer. ⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ connects you with licensed psychiatrists for personalized, evidence-based mental health care, all online and covered by most major insurance plans. To get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry.com/FEED.⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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• Why Feeling Insecure Doesn’t Mean You’re Back at the Beginning | Dr. Marisa G. FrancoIn this episode, Dr. Marisa G. Franco explores why feeling insecure doesn’t mean you’re back at the beginning, and how real self-worth may come from learning to make room for every part of yourself. She and Eric discuss why old insecurities can return even after years of growth, how past experiences continue to shape our reactions in the present, and why intellectual insight isn’t always enough to change how we feel. Marisa explains what it means to become “secure-ish,” how acknowledging difficult emotions can help us regulate them, and why true security isn’t about never feeling anxious, rejected, or uncertain. It’s about trusting that we can meet those feelings when they arise. Good Wolf RemindersA little wisdom, right when you need it. Start receiving free text reminders designed to help you pause, reflect, and take meaningful action. Sign up at oneyoufeed.net/sms. Key Takeaways: Why feeling insecure doesn’t erase the progress you’ve already made How acknowledging difficult emotions helps us regulate them instead of being controlled by them Why old memories can shape present-day reactions, even when we know intellectually that we’re safe How memory reconsolidation may help change the emotional impact of painful experiences Why some past experiences remain in the body even when we can’t consciously remember them What it means to become “secure-ish” rather than trying to eliminate insecurity altogether How accepting the anxious, needy, or vulnerable parts of ourselves can strengthen self-worth For full show notes, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ is available now! Order your copy today! If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Marisa G. Franco, check out these other episodes: How to Overcome Loneliness through Platonic Friendships with Marisa Franco How to Become Unlonely with Jillian Richardson How to Find Joy and Community with Radha Agrawal This episode is sponsored by: ⁠⁠Monarch⁠⁠: Take control of your finances with Monarch, the all-in-one personal finance app that helps you budget, track spending, monitor investments, and work toward your financial goals. Get 50% off your first year of Monarch Core, go to https://www.monarch.com/ and enter Promo Code: FEED ⁠⁠⁠Quince:⁠⁠⁠⁠ Refresh your wardrobe with Quince by going to ⁠⁠⁠⁠Quince.com/feed⁠⁠⁠⁠ for free shipping and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada, too. ⁠⁠⁠ZocDoc⁠⁠⁠ – Taking care of your health just got easier – ⁠⁠⁠start here with Zocdoc⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Shopify⁠⁠⁠ – The commerce platform that helps you build, grow, and manage your business all in one place. Start your $1/month trial at ⁠⁠⁠shopify.com/feed.⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Pebl⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ – an AI-powered platform that helps companies hire and manage global teams in 185+ countries. Get a free estimate at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠hipebl.ai⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Tiny Health⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠‘s at-home gut health test provides science-backed insights into your microbiome, along with personalized recommendations to help you improve your digestion, energy, and overall well-being. Get $50 off your first test kit at⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ tinyhealth.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox:⁠⁠⁠ Make dinnertime easier with ButcherBox, delivering high-quality 100% grass-fed beef, organic chicken, wild-caught seafood, and more, right to your door. Get $20 off your first box, plus your choice of free ground beef for life or free chicken thighs or top sirloins for a year, with free shipping always. Visit ⁠⁠⁠ButcherBox.com/FEED⁠⁠⁠ to claim your offer. ⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ connects you with licensed psychiatrists for personalized, evidence-based mental health care, all online and covered by most major insurance plans. To get matched with an in-network psychiatrist in just a few minutes, visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Talkiatry.com/FEED.⁠⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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