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Eric Zimmer

Transformative ideas from the best thinkers on the planet including guests like James Clear, Susan Cain, Michael Pollan, Deepak Chopra, Nicole LaPera, Yung Pueblo, Gabor Mate, Maggie Smith, David Whyte, Macklemore, George Saunders, Anne Lamott, Frank Turner, Mark Manson, Tara Brach, AJ Jacobs, Oliver Burkeman, Ryan Holiday, Parker Palmer. It’s not about perfection; it’s about direction.

The One You Feed

In this episode, Jonathan Goodman discusses defines unhinged habits and how to transform your life by doing less. He shares how selling his software company led him to focus on writing and living intentionally. Jonathan also explores the importance of prioritizing money, health, and relationships, embracing life’s natural seasons, and making conscious trade-offs. He explains how intense focus can transform habits, the value of childhood passions, and the difference between meaningful and vacant activities. The episode encourages listeners to nurture what matters, let go of what doesn’t, and periodically reset for a more fulfilling life.

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Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Key Takeaways:

 Discussion of the importance of prioritizing life’s triad: money, health, and relationships.

 Exploration of the concept of life seasons and the need to focus on different priorities at different times.

 Insights on habit formation and the necessity of making trade-offs to avoid burnout.

 The metaphor of the “good wolf” and the importance of nurturing positive qualities within oneself.

 The significance of recognizing when a season ends to allow for rest and reflection.

 The idea of maintaining balance in life and the dangers of comparing oneself to others.

 The role of intentional living and making deliberate decisions about time and energy investment.

 The benefits of an exploratory mindset and trying new activities to discover what fits best.

 Discussion on the social and physical benefits of engaging in inclusive activities like games.

 The impact of modern life on natural rhythms and the importance of consciously ending seasons for personal growth.

For full show notes: ⁠⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠⁠!

If you enjoyed this conversation with Jonathan Goodman, check out these other episodes:

How to Create Elastic Habits that Adapt to Your Day with Stephen Guise

Behavior Change with John Norcross

Tiny Habits for Behavior Change with BJ Fogg

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Unhinged Habits: Transform Your Life by Doing Less with Jonathan Goodman

In this episode, Dr. Ingrid Clayton explains how to start moving from people pleasing to self-trust and breaking the cycle of fawning, which is the compulsion to appease others to stay safe. She shares her personal and clinical insights on how fawning develops, its impact on self-identity, and the challenges of healing. Dr. Clayton also discusses therapy approaches, the importance of self-trust, and practical steps for breaking the fawning pattern, emphasizing the value of curiosity, self-compassion, and gradual, body-based healing in reclaiming one’s authentic voice and boundaries.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠

Key Takeaways:

 Discussion of the trauma response known as “fawning” as a coping mechanism.

 Exploration of the challenges of setting boundaries for individuals who fawn.

 Examination of the differences between fawning and other trauma responses like fight, flight, and freeze.

 Personal stories illustrating the impact of fawning in childhood and adulthood.

 The importance of nervous system regulation in healing from trauma.

 Clarification of the distinctions between fawning, people pleasing, and codependency.

 The role of self-awareness and body-based practices in recognizing and addressing fawning.

 Discussion on the complexities of healing and the individual nature of recovery journeys.

 Critique of common therapeutic advice and the need for trauma-informed approaches.

 Emphasis on the importance of self-trust and curiosity in the healing process.

For full show notes: ⁠⁠⁠click here⁠⁠⁠!

If you enjoyed this conversation with Ingrid Clayton, check out these other episodes:

How to Break the People-Pleasing Cycle and Set Healthy Boundaries with Terri Cole

How to Set Boundaries with Nedra Glover Tawwab

Conversations for Radical Alignment with Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower

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From People Pleasing to Self-Trust: Breaking the Cycle of Fawning with Ingrid Clayton

In this episode, Nedra Glover Tawwab talks about why family relationships are so hard and what actually helps navigate them. She explores the complexities of family dynamics, self-sabotage, and why people resist change. Nedra also shares insights on managing discomfort, setting boundaries, and accepting others’ limitations. The conversation covers practical strategies for healthier relationships, the challenges of being a “cycle breaker,” and how to navigate difficult conversations. You'll discover compassionate guidance for breaking free from unhealthy patterns and fostering self-awareness, acceptance, and growth in family and personal relationships.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠

Key Takeaways:

 Family dynamics and their impact on personal development

 Understanding and managing unhealthy relationships

 The concept of self-sabotage and its connection to discomfort

 The role of emotional patterns in addiction and recovery

 Navigating relationships with individuals resistant to change

 The significance of personal accountability in healing

 The complexities of shame and its effects on relationships

 Strategies for effective communication and resolving circular conversations

 The importance of self-compassion and acceptance in difficult relationships

 Recognizing and addressing the influence of family roles and expectations on identity

For full show notes: ⁠⁠click here⁠⁠!

If you enjoyed this conversation with Nedra Glover Tawwab, check out these other episodes:

How to Make Great Relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson

How to Have Healthier Relationships with Yourself and Others with Jillian Turecki

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Why Family Relationships Are So Hard and What Actually Helps with Nedra Glover Tawwab

Falling off a goal is normal. Knowing how to get back on track—without shame or drama—is the real skill. I’m hosting a free 60-minute live workshop on Tuesday, January 27 at 7pm ET to teach a simple framework for getting unstuck. Register now for ⁠⁠Falling Off is Part of It: The Framework for Getting Back on Track (Without the Drama)⁠⁠!

In this episode, Brad Stulberg explores how to cultivate excellence in a chaotic world. He explains how excellence is a lifelong practice rooted in daily effort, presence, and values, not a final achievement. Brad also discusses the importance of process over outcome, balancing ambition with self-kindness, and finding meaning through consistent, value-driven actions. The conversation also covers overcoming burnout, the illusion of perfect balance, and how to live intentionally in a chaotic world, offering practical advice for cultivating fulfillment and true greatness in everyday life.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠

Key Takeaways:

 The concept of excellence as a continuous practice rather than a fixed destination.

 The transformative nature of pursuing goals and its impact on character and personal growth.

 The importance of a process mindset, focusing on daily efforts and consistency.

 The metaphor of "feeding the good wolf" to emphasize nurturing positive qualities.

 The balance between striving for outcomes and being present in the process.

 The significance of measuring effort over outcomes for sustained progress.

 The idea of "raising the floor" to improve performance on average days.

 The role of care and commitment in achieving excellence.

 The distinction between meaningful engagement and the pitfalls of comfort and convenience.

 The necessity of intentional living and effort in a chaotic, technology-driven world.

For full show notes: ⁠click here⁠!

If you enjoyed this conversation with Brad Stulberg, check out these other episodes:

The Practice of Groundedness with Brad Stulberg

Mindfulness and Understanding Identity with Cory Allen

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Check out ⁠Mountains to Cross ⁠by Dr. Abraham George. It’s the story of how a life built on success was redirected toward compassion, and how that choice led to the founding of Shanti Bhavan, a school helping children break free from generational poverty. Find it wherever books are sold.
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How To Cultivate Excellence in a Chaotic World with Brad Stulberg

Falling off a goal is normal. Knowing how to get back on track—without shame or drama—is the real skill. I’m hosting a free 60-minute live workshop on Tuesday, January 27 at 7pm ET to teach a simple framework for getting unstuck. Register now for ⁠Falling Off is Part of It: The Framework for Getting Back on Track (Without the Drama)⁠!

In this episode, Casey McGuire Davidson talks about discovering life beyond alcohol and strategies for lasting sobriety and emotional wellness. She shares her struggles with alcohol, repeated attempts to quit, and how support, coaching, and treating sobriety as an experiment helped her succeed. Casey also discusses the challenges of early sobriety, the importance of community and self-care, and practical strategies for replacing drinking habits. The conversation emphasizes curiosity, planning, and support as keys to lasting change, offering hope and encouragement for anyone considering a break from alcohol.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠

Key Takeaways:

 Personal journey of struggling with alcohol and attempts to quit.

 Challenges faced during early sobriety, including anxiety and withdrawal symptoms.

 Benefits of sobriety, such as improved emotional stability and better sleep.

 The concept of treating sobriety as an experiment rather than a permanent decision.

 Importance of support systems, including coaching, therapy, and community groups.

 Strategies for replacing drinking habits with healthier alternatives and activities.

 The role of public accountability in maintaining sobriety goals.

 Understanding the cultural conditioning around alcohol and its impact on social interactions.

 The significance of creating new rewards and self-care practices to replace alcohol.

 Encouragement to approach sobriety with curiosity and openness to change.

For full show notes: click here!

If you enjoyed this conversation with Casey McGuire Davidson, check out these other episodes:

Special Episode: 4 Different Journeys to Sobriety

The Joy of Being Sober with Catherine Gray

The Magic of Being Sober with Laura McKowen

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Discovering Life Beyond Alcohol: Strategies for Lasting Sobriety and Emotional Wellness with Casey McGuire Davidson

Falling off a goal is normal. Knowing how to get back on track—without shame or drama—is the real skill. I’m hosting a free 60-minute live workshop on Tuesday, January 27 at 7pm ET to teach a simple framework for getting unstuck. Register now for Falling Off is Part of It: The Framework for Getting Back on Track (Without the Drama)!

In this episode, Chris Guillebeau explores time anxiety and the illusion of urgency that is st. aling your joy. He explains the pervasive feeling of never having enough time, discusses the psychological roots of time anxiety, and shares practical strategies for managing competing demands, avoidance, and procrastination. Chris also offers insights on creating personal “rules of engagement,” decluttering schedules, and embracing acceptance, encouraging listeners to cultivate a more intentional, compassionate, and fulfilling relationship with time.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!

Key Takeaways:

 Definition and exploration of time anxiety as a psychological issue.

 The distinction between feeling overwhelmed and traditional productivity challenges.

 The impact of competing priorities and requests on time management.

 The concept of “rules of engagement” for managing daily demands.

 Strategies for overcoming avoidance and procrastination.

 The importance of self-awareness and intentionality in managing time.

 Practical tips for improving time management, such as allowing buffer time for tasks.

 The idea of “time decluttering” to create space in schedules.

 The role of cognitive distortions in exacerbating time-related stress.

 Encouragement to embrace a mindset shift towards a more fulfilling relationship with time.

For full show notes: https://www.oneyoufeed.net/time-anxiety/https://www.oneyoufeed.net/time-anxiety/!

If you enjoyed this episode with Chris Guillebeau, check out: 

Chris Guillebeau (Interview from 2014)

How to Accept Limitations and Make Time for What Counts with Oliver Burkeman

Time Management for Mortals with Oliver Burkeman

Oliver Burkeman on Modern Time Management (2019)

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Time Anxiety: The Illusion of Urgency That’s Stealing Your Joy with Chris Guillebeau

In this episode, Adam Alter discusses the science of getting unstuck and learning to know when to keep going or when to let go. He explores why people get stuck in areas like work, creativity, and personal growth, and discuss the psychological and cultural factors behind feeling stuck. Adam also shares practical strategies for getting unstuck, such as breaking big goals into smaller steps, embracing curiosity, and taking action - even imperfectly. The conversation highlights the importance of acceptance, mindset shifts, collaboration, and self-compassion in overcoming plateaus and sparking breakthroughs.

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Key Takeaways

 Exploration vs. Exploitation: The two-step process for achieving creative breakthroughs.

 The concept of "stuckness" in various life aspects, including creativity, work, and relationships.

 Psychological vs. physical stuckness and the emotional toll it takes.

 Cultural differences in perceptions of change and stuckness (Eastern vs. Western perspectives).

 The importance of acceptance and mindset in overcoming feelings of being stuck.

 Strategies for breaking large goals into manageable tasks to maintain motivation.

 The "plateau effect" and how to navigate periods of stalled progress.

 The role of curiosity in fostering creativity and challenging the status quo.

 The significance of action and starting small to overcome inertia.

 The impact of physical movement and changing environments on mental clarity and creativity.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Adam Alter, check out these other episodes:

How to Create Emotional Agility with Susan David

Thomas Sterner on How to Be Fully Engaged

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The Science of Getting Unstuck: When to Keep Going and When to Let Go with Adam Alter

In this episode, Amanda Montell explores the age of magical overthinking and why our minds keep doubling down. She discusses how cognitive biases and irrational thinking shape our perceptions and behaviors in the information age. Amanda also explains shine theory, zero-sum and sunk cost biases, and the allure of manifestation and conspiracy thinking. Through personal stories and humor, Amanda and Eric discuss how understanding these mental patterns can help us navigate modern life more consciously and compassionately.

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Key Takeaways

 Exploration of cognitive biases and their impact on modern thinking.

 Discussion of irrational thinking in the information age.

 Examination of the parable of the two wolves and its implications for personal behavior.

 Analysis of the shine theory and its relevance to social dynamics, particularly among women.

 Insights into the sunk cost fallacy and its effects on decision-making in relationships.

 Critique of manifestation beliefs and their parallels to conspiracy thinking.

 The role of storytelling in human cognition and its influence on self-perception.

 The relationship between overconfidence bias and self-assessment.

 Challenges of navigating modern life with evolved cognitive shortcuts.

 The impact of social media on decision-making and personal narratives.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Amanda Montell, check out these other episodes:

Why You Can’t Think Your Way Out of Overthinking with Adam Mastroianni

The Purpose of Emotions and Why We’re Not Wired for Happiness with Anders Hansen

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The Age of Magical Overthinking: Why Our Minds Keep Doubling Down with Amanda Montell

In this episode, Gretchen Rubin shares how to go from chaos to calm and why your environment shapes your habits and happiness. She explores how organizing and decluttering physical spaces can boost mental clarity and emotional well-being. Gretchen also shares practical strategies for habit change, discusses individual differences in preferences for order, and explains how small environmental tweaks can make positive behaviors easier. The conversation also covers managing possessions, letting go of outdated identities, and making intentional life choices.

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Key Takeaways

 The relationship between outer order (organization and decluttering) and inner calm (mental and emotional well-being).

 The impact of small environmental changes on habits, mood, and productivity.

 The concept of “feeding the good wolf” from the parable of two wolves, emphasizing intentional living.

 The significance of setting intentions or themes for the new year, such as choosing a “word of the year.”

 The role of “ignition costs” in habit formation and how reducing friction can facilitate positive behaviors.

 The varying responses individuals have to clutter and organization, including “clutter blind” individuals and “abundance lovers.”

 The importance of monitoring habits and recognizing progress to encourage continued growth.

 Strategies for managing possessions and making decisions about what to keep or discard.

 The psychological challenges of letting go of items tied to past identities or aspirations.

 The concept of “choosing the bigger life” as a decision-making framework to guide intentional choices.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Gretchen Rubin, check out these other episodes:

Living Skillfully with Gretchen Rubin (2020)

Designing a Life That Supports You: Presence, Beauty, and the Power of Environment with Nate Berkus

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From Chaos to Calm: Why Your Environment Shapes Your Habits and Happiness with Gretchen Rubin

In this episode, Jay Vidyarthi discusses how to reclaim your mind and build a healthier relationship with technology. He explores common pitfalls—like avoidance, anxiety, and judgment—and shares practical strategies for using digital tools consciously. Jay emphasizes personal agency, setting boundaries, and the value of both online and offline connections. This conversation challenges the idea that technology is inherently good or bad, instead encouraging listeners to cultivate awareness, compassion, and intentional habits to foster well-being and authentic relationships in a tech-driven world.

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Key Takeaways

 The relationship between technology and mindfulness.

 The tension between the desire for genuine connection and the allure of digital devices.

 The concept of technology as neither inherently good nor bad, but shaped by our relationship with it.

 Strategies for engaging with technology mindfully, as discussed in Jay Viviani's book.

 The "two wolves" parable and its implications for attention and emotional awareness.

 The importance of clarity and awareness in managing emotions related to technology use.

 The role of meditation and mindfulness practices in cultivating a healthier relationship with technology.

 The impact of societal narratives on perceptions of technology and its users.

 The significance of personal agency in setting boundaries and making conscious choices regarding technology.

 The potential for technology to meet emotional and social needs when approached mindfully.

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Reclaim Your Mind: How to Build a Healthier Relationship with Technology with Jay Vidyarthi

Guy Winch, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist, keynote and TED Talk speaker, and author whose books have been translated into twenty languages. In this episode, Eric and Guy discuss his book Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts.
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In This Interview, Guy Winch and I Discuss Emotional First Aid and …

His book, Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts

Understanding that we need to tend to our emotional wounds just as we would physical wounds

Building emotional resiliency by addressing these small wounds

How to treat the emotional wound of rejection

Identifying exactly what the hurt feelings are

How the brain registers physical and emotional pain in the same way

Learning to improve low self-esteem

Writing exercises to help deal with rejection and failure

How ruminating can easily become a habit and lead to depression

The dangers of rumination: stewing vs. doing

How rumination is vulnerable to distraction, engage your mind somewhere else

What works and doesn’t work in building self-esteem

Building self-compassion

The detective mindset vs. a harmful and self-critical mindset

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