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Look... every couple struggles. You fight too much; you're bored; sex is either okay (or rare); maybe you're even considering divorce. OR... maybe your marriage is actually pretty good, but you want to go deeper. In this podcast, straight-talking marriage therapist Zach Brittle tackle the most common complaints virtually every marriage experience. Along the way, they reveal the science behind strong relationships and talk about what's really going on for couples. Topics include conflict, communication, compatibility, money, sex, in-laws, infidelity, time-management, future dreams, and more. If you want relief? A deeper connection? A new way forward...? Then you've got to find out what's REALLY going on in your marriage. That's what this podcast is about. You can learn more about Zach, and his alternatives to traditional therapy at marriagetherapyradio.com.

Marriage Therapy Radio

Zach sits down with Courtney and Nathan Boyer, a couple married for over twenty years, parenting three kids, and living overseas on a U.S. military base in Germany.

Courtney and Nathan share the story of a major turning point in their marriage—when Courtney asked to open the relationship after years of suppressing her needs, identity, and desire. Raised in a strict religious culture, Courtney explains how she spent much of her marriage prioritizing her husband’s career and her role as a mother, slowly becoming resentful and disconnected from herself. Nathan, a military physician, reflects on how his drive for achievement and constant “next step” mindset left him unaware of how much was being lost along the way.

The couple walks through the six-month conversation that followed Courtney’s request—marked by resistance, fear, patience, and an honest willingness to walk away if they couldn’t find a way forward together. Nathan shares what it was like to realize he is deeply monogamous at his core, while Courtney names polyamory as an essential part of her identity rather than a lifestyle choice.

They also talk candidly about shame, public backlash, parenting through non-traditional choices, and the surprising ways opening the relationship strengthened their emotional and sexual connection. Throughout the conversation, Zach highlights the importance of long-form conversations, adult responsibility, and the courage it takes to renegotiate a marriage rather than quietly disappear inside it.

This episode is a nuanced, human look at love, consent, identity, and what it means to grow without abandoning one another.

Key Takeaways

 
Long-term marriages go through distinct cycles tied to life stages, not just emotions

 
Suppressing needs often leads to resentment, not stability

 
Identity shifts don’t happen overnight—they require long conversations

 
Consent includes the real option to walk away

 
Monogamy and polyamory can coexist in one marriage with clarity and care

 
Erotic energy and trust can grow through expansion, not just exclusivity

 
Adult relationships require ongoing renegotiation, not silent endurance

Guest Info

Courtney Boyer

Relationship coach, author, and creator behind The Monopoly Couple. Courtney writes and speaks about identity, desire, religious conditioning, and non-traditional relationships.

 
Website: https://www.courtneyboyercoaching.com/

 
Book: Opened (launching February 17)https://www.courtneyboyercoaching.com/store/p/opened

 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themonopolycouple/

Nathan Boyer

Military physician and longtime partner to Courtney. 
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Ep 408 When Desire Changes the Marriage with Courtney and Nathan Boyer

Zach sits down with Glenn and Jodie, a married couple whose relationship has been shaped by cancer, caregiving, entrepreneurship, and a shared commitment to facing life side-by-side.

Their story includes an early breast cancer diagnosis shortly after getting engaged, multiple recurrences over the years, and a present-day reality of living with cancer as a chronic condition. Through it all, Glenn and Jodie describe how the illness became something external to their marriage—an adversary they face together rather than a wedge between them.

They talk openly about caregiving, helplessness, perspective, and how repeated medical crises stripped away the impulse to sweat small things. Glenn reflects on learning how to show up when he couldn’t “fix” anything, while Jodie shares how being cared for reshaped her understanding of partnership and trust.

The conversation also explores the everyday friction of working together—different wiring, different priorities, and Glenn’s self-identified ADD—along with Zach’s reframing of conditions like cancer and ADHD as things couples must externalize rather than personalize.

They close by sharing the work they now do together through their businesses and podcast, Couples, Inc., where they help couples who run businesses navigate boundaries, roles, and relationship health.

This episode is a grounded, hopeful look at what it means to fight the right thing—and to stay on the same team over the long haul.

Key Takeaways

 
Externalize the problem – Cancer, ADHD, and other conditions aren’t your partner; they’re what you face together.

 
Caregiving is connection – Showing up consistently matters more than having solutions.

 
Perspective changes priorities – Repeated health crises reduced conflict around “small stuff.”

 
Different wiring isn’t disrespect – Productivity styles and attention differences require collaboration, not blame.

 
Mindset precedes tactics – Tools only work when used without resentment or superiority.

 
Play the long game – Healthy relationships focus on reducing the same pain points year over year.

 
Being on the same team is intentional – Unity doesn’t happen automatically; it’s practiced.

Guest Info

Glenn & Jodie Glenn and Jodie are married partners in life and business. They co-own Living Pink Communications, a marketing firm inspired by Jodie’s ongoing experience with breast cancer, and host the Couples, Inc. podcast, which supports couples who run businesses together.

Website: https://livingpinkcommunications.com/

Podcast: https://couplesincpodcast.com

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Ep 407 Fighting the Right Enemy with Glenn and Jodie

Zach sits down with couples therapist and author Colette Jane Fehr and her husband Steve Fehr for a candid conversation about second marriage, difference, repair, and what therapy really does—and doesn’t—solve.

Colette and Steve met later in life after very different first marriages and divorces. She’s an emotionally expressive, extroverted therapist from New York; he’s a reserved, analytical CPA from Kentucky. On paper, they couldn’t be more different—but from their first night talking for hours at a diner, something clicked.

They talk openly about blending families with four teenage daughters, the strain that season put on their marriage, and how therapy became not a last resort but an ongoing resource. Steve reflects on learning—slowly—to speak up before resentment builds, while Colette names her own pattern of over-explaining and chasing understanding when she feels disconnected.

The conversation explores how repair actually works in real marriages: who apologizes first, why pauses matter, how shame gets in the way, and why growth is measured in years—not moments. They also share what they’re navigating now: demanding careers, a major book launch, and the need to reinvest in their relationship after a season of borrowing against it.

This episode is an honest look at what long-term partnership looks like when both people stay willing to learn, practice, and keep showing up—imperfectly.

Key Takeaways

 
Therapy isn’t a referee – Real change happens when each person does their own work, not when someone “wins.”

 
Quiet creates distance – Avoiding small conversations leads to resentment and emotional shutdown.

 
Pausing prevents damage – Taking space can be protective when emotions run hot.

 
Repair matters more than perfection – Apologies don’t require total agreement—just ownership.

 
Different nervous systems need different timing – One partner may need space while the other seeks immediate connection.

 
Growth is gradual – Being better than five years ago counts—and so does staying open to future growth.

 
Relationships require reinvestment – Work seasons drain connection unless time and intention are restored.

Guest Info

Colette Jane Fehr Couples therapist, speaker, podcast host, and author of The Cost of Quiet, releasing February 2026 https://www.colettejanefehr.com/new-book. Colette specializes in helping individuals and couples break patterns of avoidance and learn self-connected communication.

Website: https://www.colettejanefehr.com

Steve Fehr CPA and finance professional with over 30 years of experience. Steve brings a grounded, analytical perspective to conversations about communication, emotional labor, and long-term partnership.

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Ep 406 What Therapy Actually Gave Us with Colette and Steve Fehr

Zach looks back on a standout year of conversations by revisiting some of the most meaningful, memorable, and instructive moments from past episodes.

 Zach introduces each segment, offering context and reflection on why these moments matter and how they connect to the bigger picture of relational health. Across these clips, you’ll hear stories of intimacy rebuilt, grief held with humor, trust repaired, creativity sustained, and partnerships strengthened through intentional work.

Whether you’re catching up, revisiting favorites, or discovering episodes you missed, this episode offers a thoughtful snapshot of what the show has been exploring all year: how real people do the real work of staying connected.

Couples featured in this episode include:

 
Susan & Tim Bratton — Episode 394https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ep-394

 
Kimberly Crossman & Tom Walsh — Episode 396https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ep-396

 
Karen Whitehouse & Helen McLaughlin — Episode 401https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ep-401

 
Tarah & EJ Kerwin — Episode 368https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ep-368

 
Baya Voce & Emmy Bush — Episode 374https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ep-374

Additional episodes mentioned by Zach:

 
Victoria Shalet & Adam James — Episode 379https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ep-379

 
Brian & Toby — Episode 392https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ep-392

 
Billy & Melissa Hokacker — Episode 384https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ep-384

 
Jennifer & Andres — Episode 391https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ep-391

 
Zach’s Mom & Stepdad — Episode 383https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ep-383

 
Ira & Andrea — Multi-Episode Arc (Episodes 307–399)https://marriagetherapyradio.com/ep-397

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Ep 405 Lessons, Laughter, Tears, and Growth | The Year in Review

Zach sits down with Dana and Sean, a couple whose nearly 30-year relationship includes teenage pregnancy, early marriage, deep faith, repeated infidelity, and an extraordinary rebuilding process that reshaped their marriage from the ground up.

Dana and Sean met as children at church, reconnected in high school, and married young after an unplanned pregnancy—long before either of them knew who they were or how marriage actually worked. Pressured by religious expectations and carrying unresolved childhood trauma, they entered marriage already fractured. What followed were years of struggle: emotional immaturity, financial stress, multiple affairs, and seasons where staying together felt impossible.

Instead of walking away, they chose the slow, painful work of rebuilding. Sean entered therapy to understand himself before trying to understand his wife. Dana learned to confront her own patterns, pride, and expectations—anchoring herself in faith, presence, and radical honesty. Together, they rejected shallow answers and chose accountability, counseling, and humility.

Now parents of four children (ages 26–16), Dana and Sean reflect on how faith became not a rulebook but a living presence—the “third strand” that sustained them when their marriage felt dead. They talk candidly about selfishness, stubborn hope, and why staying isn’t about endurance but about vision: building a marriage their children would actually want to emulate.

This conversation is raw, grounded, and deeply hopeful—a reminder that resurrection is possible, even after years of damage.

Key Takeaways

 
Early marriage magnifies unhealed trauma – Getting married young without self-knowledge set them up for struggle from the start.

 
Staying isn’t passive – Rebuilding required therapy, in-home separation, humility, and consistent effort from both partners.

 
Self-work precedes relationship work – Sean learned that understanding himself was essential before he could truly love Dana.

 
Faith as presence, not pressure – Their spirituality evolved from rigid rules to lived connection and daily surrender.

 
Infidelity doesn’t have to be the end – While not prescribing staying, they show what repair can look like when both partners commit to real change.

 
Love languages come from childhood – Sean gives gifts; Dana craves quality time—both rooted in how they were raised.

 
Resurrection is real – A marriage can be “dead dead” and still come back stronger the second time around.

 
Vision sustains commitment – They stayed not just for the kids, but to model a marriage worth choosing.

Guest Info

Dana is a marriage coach, speaker, and host of the podcast Rebuilding Us, where she shares honest conversations about infidelity, faith, and marriage repair. She is known for her commitment to authenticity and refusal to offer shallow advice.

Website: https://danache.com/ 

Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/mrsdanache/?hl=en⁠

Sean is a firefighter who prefers life behind the scenes. His willingness to engage in therapy, self-reflection, and accountability played a central role in their rebuilding process.

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Ep 404 Staying When It Would’ve Been Easier to Leave with Dana and Sean

Zach sits down with Justin and Kylie Coulson, parents of six daughters and co-creators of the Happy Families movement. What unfolds is a deeply honest conversation about failure, repair, intention, and the long road toward building a family culture that actually feels good to live in.

Justin shares a pivotal early-parenting moment that became the turning point of his life: a loss of control with one of their young children that forced him to confront who he was becoming as a father and husband. Kylie describes the clarity she felt in that moment—her love for Justin alongside her unwavering commitment to her children’s safety—and how that line in the sand changed everything.

From there, the conversation traces Justin’s radical career pivot from radio to psychology, the years of study and sacrifice that followed, and the birth of the Happy Families philosophy. Together, Justin and Kylie unpack what “happy” actually means—not the absence of hardship, but the presence of connection, safety, and shared joy, especially around the family table.

They share the simple but powerful structures they use to stay aligned: weekly check-ins, quarterly retreats, and a three-question framework that replaces blame with collaboration. Through stories of totalled cars, hard choices, and repaired moments, Justin and Kylie show how families are built—not through perfection, but through practised responses, accountability, and love that stays bigger than the mess.

Key Takeaways

 
We always get to choose our response – Circumstances don’t dictate behavior; intention does.

 
People matter, things don’t – Safety, connection, and relationship always come before stuff.

 
Happy families are built, not inherited – Skills like communication, repair, and emotional regulation are learnable.

 
Hardship doesn’t cancel happiness – Joy is found in meaning, not ease.

 
Repair builds trust – Conflict isn’t the enemy; unresolved conflict is.

 
Structure creates safety – Regular check-ins and retreats help families stay aligned.

 
Blame kills collaboration – Asking “How can we support each other?” changes everything.

 
The table is the vision – A family that wants to be together is the real measure of success.

Guest Info

Justin & Kylie Coulson

Justin Coulson is a parenting expert, author, psychologist, and founder of Happy Families (https://happyfamilies.com.au/). He hosts Australia’s most-downloaded parenting podcast, The Happy Families Podcast, and appears on national television. Kylie Coulson is his partner in parenting and purpose, bringing clarity, steadiness, and lived wisdom to their work together.

They are parents of six daughters, grandparents to one (and counting), and passionate advocates for intentional family culture.

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Ep 403 People Matter, Things Don’t with Justin and Kylie Coulson

Zach sits down with Kristan and Brook Seaford, a couple whose marriage was transformed overnight when Kristan contracted a rare and catastrophic infection in 2013. What began as strep throat and the flu quickly escalated into pneumonia, sepsis, organ failure, septic shock, and ultimately the loss of both hands, one foot, and part of the other—a 108-day medical ordeal across six hospitals that changed her life and their family forever. 

But what unfolds in this interview is not just a medical story—it’s a relationship story. Kristan describes the grief of returning home to a toddler who no longer recognized her, the ache of losing the physical abilities that once defined her identity, and the spiritual shift from fierce independence to complete dependence on God. Brook shares his own transformation as the family’s roles flipped overnight—learning to parent five children, run a home he once took for granted, and support a partner rebuilding her life.

Together, Kristan and Brook talk about humor as survival, forgiveness as practice, community as a lifeline, and the unexpected gifts that emerged from unimaginable loss. They explore how their affection, partnership, and independence have evolved, how they’ve adapted to enjoy life together in new ways, and how their children have grown stronger, more empathetic, and more capable because of what their family lived through.

Kristan now speaks publicly about resilience, faith, and healing—and this conversation demonstrates the courage and compassion at the heart of her work.

Key Takeaways

 
A medical miracle and a marital transformation – Kristan survived sepsis and organ failure, losing limbs but gaining a deeper sense of gratitude, faith, and purpose. 

 
Roles reversed overnight – Brook shifted from traditional breadwinner to full-time caregiver and household manager, discovering new respect for the invisible labor of parenting and home life. 

 
Anger and grief show up differently – She grieved deeply but rarely felt anger; he felt anger for her, mourning all that had been taken from someone he loved. 

 
Rebuilding attachment takes intention – Their 13-month-old daughter was terrified when Kristan came home—so Kristan slept on the nursery floor for months to rebuild their bond. 

 
Humor is holy – Dark humor and playful banter became a coping mechanism for both the trauma and the awkward social moments that followed. 

 
The story shaped their kids – Their five children grew more independent, responsible, and compassionate as they adapted to new family rhythms.

 
Partnership evolves – Though physical limitations changed what activities they can share, they now intentionally seek “new fun” together—breweries, museums, comedy clubs, creative classes, and cruises instead of scuba diving. 

 
Her disability makes her a better counselor – Kristan says she isn’t a good mom, wife, or therapist despite what happened—but in many ways because of it. 

Guest Info

Kristan Seaford
Speaker, therapist, author, and survivor. Kristan shares her story of catastrophic illness, limb loss, resilience, and faith through her counseling practice and speaking engagements. Learn more at https://www.kristanseaford.com/.

Brook Seaford
Pastor, father, and caregiver whose perspective brings honesty, steadiness, and depth to the conversation.

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Ep 402 Love After Losing Limbs with Kristan & Brook Seaford

Zach sits down with Karen Whitehouse and Helen McLaughlin, the married duo behind the cult-hit podcast Who Shat on the Floor at My Wedding? https://www.whoshatontheflooratmywedding.com/ 

What began as a deeply confusing—and slightly sinister—incident on their wedding boat (“the matrimonial turd,” as Karen lovingly calls it) became a three-year dinner-party story that neither of them could stop telling. Their friends couldn’t stop talking about it either. Eventually, with Helen’s wholehearted encouragement (and financial backing), the couple turned their whodunnit into a comedy podcast—one that later went viral, beat Joe Rogan for a week, and now brings joy to listeners around the world.

Karen and Helen share how the project grew from a joke into a mission: spreading joy, escapism, and silliness during some of the hardest seasons of their lives. They talk candidly about infertility, grief, bad therapy, moving from Amsterdam to a tiny English village, and the emotional evolution that shifted them from distraction to genuine self-work. Their chemistry is undeniable: they tease each other, interrupt each other, apologize quickly, and know exactly how to hold space when things get tough.

Together, they explore how detective work mirrors relationship work—don’t make assumptions, stay curious, pause your biases—and how “learning each other’s love languages” helped them survive both big heartbreak and small bickers. It’s a conversation full of heart, humor, British slang, and surprisingly profound insights about partnership.

Key Takeaways

 
Comedy and curiosity can transmute pain – Turning their wedding mystery into a podcast helped them process, connect, and bring comfort to listeners going through dark times.

 
Don’t make assumptions – Their detective work taught them that bias blinds you… in crime-solving and in conflict with your partner.

 
Joy is a choice – Both see “spreading joy” as part of their life purpose, especially after Helen’s grief and Karen’s infertility journey.

 
Learn each other’s triggers – Helen’s fear of abandonment and Karen’s need for praise once clashed; learning their love languages changed everything.

 
Apology is a superpower – A small bicker resolved quickly after Karen simply said: “I have to apologize.”

 
Big life transitions shift emotional bandwidth – Moving from Amsterdam’s buzz to the English countryside forced them to slow down and actually feel their feelings.

 
Avoid two bottles of white wine – Their worst arguments were fueled by it. (“Anything else is fine!”)

 
Support > solutions – During IVF heartbreak, grief, and major transitions, what mattered most was showing up for each other with compassion.

Guest Info

Karen Whitehouse & Helen McLaughlin
Karen and Helen are the creators and voices behind the global hit podcast Who Shat on the Floor at My Wedding?, a comedic documentary series investigating a very real crime from their own wedding day. Season 3 continues their legacy of solving listener-submitted “comedy crimes” with their signature unqualified-detective charm.

They live in the English countryside, where Helen works in cybersecurity and studies forex trading for fun (yes—really), and Karen is on the cusp of becoming a full-time comedy-podcast producer. Their shared mission: spread joy, silliness, and a lot of laughter

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Ep 401 Don’t Get Shirty: Love, Humor & Detective Work with Karen Whitehouse & Helen McLaughlin

Marking the 400th episode of Marriage Therapy Radio, Zach takes the mic solo to reflect on eight years of podcasting, lessons from working with couples, and what it really means to be a grownup in your relationship.

He shares behind-the-scenes insights from the recent three-part series with the husband and the wife (Ira and Andrea), explaining how their courage and vulnerability helped listeners see that change starts with small, consistent choices. Using their story as a lens, Zach revisits his two-part framework for relationship success:

 
Be a grownup – Show up as your wise, mature self who can manage disappointment, own mistakes, and stay grounded.

 
Do more of what your partner likes (and less of what they don’t).

From there, Zach explores the miracle question, a therapeutic exercise that helps couples (and families) imagine what success looks like before it happens, and offers practical advice for navigating Thanksgiving, holidays, and the everyday moments that define marriage.

He also reflects on his own reparenting journey through five years of sobriety, the lessons of risk-taking (inspired by watching football and realizing you don’t always have to “punt”), and the idea that “nothing changes if nothing changes.”

This heartfelt solo episode blends gratitude, humor, and practical wisdom—a reminder that progress in love and life doesn’t require perfection, just a willingness to keep making your relationship a little better today than it was yesterday.

Key Takeaways

 
The two secrets to healthy relationships:

 
Be a grownup.

 
Do more of what your partner likes and less of what they don’t.

 
The “miracle question” – Ask what it would look like if the next season (or even this weekend) went exactly right; use that as your roadmap.

 
Nothing changes if nothing changes – Progress requires choosing differently, again and again.

 
Be intentional with holidays – Set expectations, manage alcohol and boundaries, and choose gratitude.

 
Reparenting is ongoing work – Healing old patterns is part of growing up emotionally and relationally.

 
Change your relationship with risk – Sometimes you don’t need to punt; you can go for it.

 
Better is the goal – Therapy, marriage, and life don’t have to be “all better.” Just better than before.

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Ep 400 What We Learned From Their Marriage (and Yours)

In their third session, Zach shifts focus from reparenting the self to rebuilding trust, compassion, and connection in real time.

The couple begins by reflecting on the chaos of parenting two neurodivergent children and how exhaustion, overwhelm, and constant caregiving have reshaped their marriage. The wife shares that while parenting has deep purpose and spiritual meaning, it also leaves her feeling “brought to her knees.” The husband expresses gratitude for their new home in Lisbon and admiration for her recent self-care efforts—but his words about “having more respect” land in a complicated way.

What unfolds next is a layered conversation about respect versus compassion—how differently each experiences and defines those words, and how love can be both abundant and still “not land.” The wife reveals her fear that her “bucket has a hole”—that trauma keeps love from staying inside. The husband wrestles with the feeling of being both compassionate and exhausted. Zach guides them toward clarity: that differences in meaning, experience, and emotional wiring don’t mean disconnection—they’re invitations to co-create a shared vocabulary of care.

By the end, the trio lands on a metaphor for healing: building an inner “city with a well and garden”. A healthy place inside the self where gratitude, curiosity, and compassion can grow. From there, they imagine a next step; ten intentional days of small, mutual choices to create a shared sense of safety and hope.

Key Takeaways

 
Parenting exposes purpose and pressure – Raising neurodivergent kids has deepened their sense of mission but also stretched their capacity for joy.

 
Respect and compassion can get tangled – The husband’s expression of regained respect triggers the wife’s old shame wounds, revealing how love languages can misfire even when intentions are good.

 
Compassion must land – It’s not about whether compassion exists, but whether it’s experienced and felt.

 
Trauma leaves “holes in the bucket” – The wife describes how past pain can make love hard to hold, even when it’s generously offered.

 
Shame cycles need space – Zach helps her imagine creating a small pause between shame and reaction—a mindful sliver that grows with practice.

 
Safety over sameness – Each partner’s version of health looks different, but the shared goal is to meet in a “healthy place,” not to drag the other toward one definition.

 
Gratitude and agency go together – The husband learns that his peace can’t depend on her choices; it must come from cultivating gratitude within himself.

 
Ten-day goals – They agree to take small, concrete steps—ten days at a time—to make life together a little “more good” and a little “less bad.”

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Ep 399 Session 3 | Ten Days at a Time

The kids are headed back to school. Zach is excited to get back in therapy. This leads to a discussion about the frequency of therapy and how often is helpful. Laura gives an update on her biking injury. They go on to discuss a listener's question about what to do after conflict. 
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Ep 130 After the Fight

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