This relationship truth will change your life, and it might be hard to hear. It is not them, it's you. Why do we unconsciously sabotage our relationships? Why would we try to sabotage our chances of a fulfilling relationship? No one sets out to do this, and yet self sabotage is the #1 problem Jillian helps people with in their love loves. In this episode, Jillian also describes the role of stress in a relationship and how we can destroy connection without even realizing it. She'll also teach what you can do about it. Additional resources for dealing with trauma and building more fulfilling relationships: "The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma" by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. "Supersurvivors: The Surprising Link Between Suffering and Success" by David B. Feldman and Lee Daniel Kravetz "Living Untethered: Beyond the Human Predicament" by Michael A. Singer "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert" by John M. Gottman and Nan Silver ~~ Follow the show on Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at [email protected] Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon Find Resources mentioned in the show at the Jillian on Love Recommendations ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on Instagram: @jillianturecki Tik Tok: @jillian.turecki Twitter: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at www.jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices