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Dr.K

The Podcast form of HealthyGamerGG! Tune in for weekly updates from the channel to learn more about mental health, wellness, and how to become a Healthy Gamer!

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Why do some people seem to hate you no matter what you do, even when you have not done anything wrong? Dr. K calls this displaced hatred, anger that cannot be aimed at the real source, so it gets redirected onto a safer target. He uses Snape’s unfair treatment of Harry as a clean example of how this happens when love, loss, and betrayal collide.

From there, he brings it into real life: family dynamics, workplaces, and even online anger. Once you can spot displaced hatred, you stop wasting energy trying to win someone over in an unwinnable situation, and you can start tracing your own persistent anger back to the person or wound you “aren’t allowed” to be mad at.

Topics Included

-What displaced hatred is, and why it feels so unfair to the target
-Snape, Lily, James, and Harry as a case study in redirected anger
-Why the mind struggles to hold love and hate toward the same person
-A therapy insight: the parent you do not talk about can hold the real pain
-How “good parent” narratives can hide resentment about lack of protection
-Common real world pattern: coworker anger that is actually about the boss
-Why killing someone with kindness often fails when the issue is not you
-How displaced hatred keeps you taking responsibility for someone else’s problem-The role of self hatred, depression, and why anger can get redirected outward

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Why Someone Hates You for No Reason (Displaced Hatred)

In this episode, Dr. K sits down with therapist and trauma educator Patrick Teahan to explore how childhood trauma continues to shape adult relationships, identity, and emotional regulation. They unpack how early survival patterns can clash with adult goals, leading to procrastination, anxiety, avoidance, and chronic inner conflict. Rather than framing these struggles as personal failure, the conversation reframes them as adaptations that once protected us but now hold us back.

The discussion moves into attachment styles, intimacy, and projection, showing how unresolved childhood dynamics often replay themselves in romantic relationships. Dr. K and Patrick explain why healing can feel destabilizing, how emotional numbing gets mistaken for peace, and what real integration looks like when growth shifts from forcing change to building emotional flexibility.

Topics covered include:
-How childhood trauma creates conflict between emotions and adult goals-Anxious and avoidant attachment patterns in adult relationships-Why healing can disrupt relationships built on shared dysfunction-Projection of parental wounds onto romantic partners-The difference between emotional numbness and true emotional stability

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How Does Trauma Affect Your Relationship w/ @patrickteahanofficial ​

Ever notice how you can be chatting effortlessly, then the moment a new person shows up, you freeze and your brain goes blank? In this episode, Dr. K breaks down why some conversations feel smooth and others suddenly become hard, especially when you feel judged, intimidated, or you want to make a good impression.

He explains the nervous system shift that happens in real time, how threat detection hijacks your social flow, and why trying to force yourself to be charming makes it worse. Then he gives a simple roadmap to get back into a relaxed, fluid vibe using breathing, repeated low stakes exposure, and a curiosity based mindset shift.

Topics Included

-Why conversation flows when you are relaxed, and collapses when you feel evaluated
-Parasympathetic vs sympathetic nervous system in social moments
How bullying or past social pain trains your brain to treat strangers as threats
-Amygdala activation and the freeze response
-How overthinking and self monitoring kills conversational flow
-A stroke example that shows how the frontal lobes can inhibit free speech
-Fast in the moment reset using slow exhalations
-Exposure therapy for social ease through small benign interactions
-Practical starter reps with low pressure strangers
-Using curiosity to replace threat scanning and get back into connection
-Reframing small talk as a rare chance to meet a unique person
-Letting go of needing approval, especially from people you will never see again

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How To Act Natural In Conversations

In this episode, Dr. K breaks down procrastination in a way that cuts past motivation hacks, productivity systems, and self blame. He explains why procrastination is not a character flaw, lack of discipline, or missing willpower, but the result of how the mind operates and how we relate to it. When we stay fused with our thoughts, the mind quietly decides for us, then keeps us busy with internal debate so we feel like we tried.

The conversation reframes discipline and self respect as actions, not traits you acquire. Dr. K explores how avoidance builds momentum over time, why waiting to “feel ready” keeps you stuck, and how believing there is a finished version of yourself actually undermines change. The episode offers a grounded, sometimes uncomfortable approach to breaking the cycle by changing how you respond to your mind in the moment, not by perfecting your system or your future self.

Topics Include:

-Why procrastination feels like conflict even when the decision is already made
-Why discipline and self respect are verbs, not things you possess
-How the mind manipulates you by offering better plans for tomorrow
-The difference between training your mind and negotiating with it
-Why insight alone does not change behavior

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Why You Keep Telling Yourself I'll Do It Tomorrow

Some people walk into a room and everything changes. They do not speak louder, try harder, or perform better, yet others feel calmer, steadier, and more grounded around them. This episode breaks down what Dr. K calls true or divine aura, which is different from confidence or charisma and cannot be faked through social skills.

Dr. K explores how this kind of presence often emerges after profound psychological and existential collapse, when all normal coping mechanisms fail and a person connects to something deeper than ego, status, or validation. He explains why this stability feels magnetic to others, how it can be misused, and why chasing it directly is usually the wrong move.

Topics Included

What separates true aura from confidence or charisma
Why modern psychology avoids studying divinity and aura
The role of empathy and emotional stability in presence
How extreme suffering can dissolve the ego
Connection to the divine as a psychological experience
Why people with aura seem immune to intimidation or rejection
How cult leaders misuse this kind of presence
Ick resistance and the link between aura and compassion
Why longing for aura can actually block it
A healthier way to live without chasing transformation

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Why Some People Have Divine Aura

Dr. K joins Ludwig and Squeex in the middle of an intense Dark Souls marathon to unpack a growing tension that goes beyond the game. What starts as frustration over skill differences quickly turns into a deeper conversation about resentment, competition, validation, and what happens when collaboration turns into comparison.

As the conversation unfolds, Dr. K walks them through real relationship dynamics in real time. They explore how cycles of blame form, why arguing over who is “right” often makes things worse, and how resentment quietly builds when people feel unheard or undervalued. The episode becomes a live breakdown of how to move from winning arguments to actually repairing trust.

Topics include:
Why focusing on “the truth” can damage relationships
How resentment builds between teammates and collaborators
Competition vs cooperation in close partnerships
Feeling respected versus feeling understood
Why validation matters more than being right
Breaking cycles of blame and escalation
How to repair tension without keeping score

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Couples Counseling w/ @Ludwig and @Squeex

Dr. K breaks down why so many people struggle with self-love and why the usual advice to “just love yourself” never works. He explains how early attachment, people pleasing, and constant self-negotiation slowly disconnect you from your own wants until you can’t tell who you are or what you deserve. Instead of treating self-love like a mindset hack, he shows how your environment and relationships quietly shape your sense of worth.

He also lays out what actually moves the needle. That includes changing the way you talk to yourself, breaking the habit of appeasing your own anxiety, letting others reflect your value, and using meditation to stop fusing with every negative thought. Dr. K reframes self-love as something you grow into through awareness and experience, not something you magically “decide” to have.

Topics include:- How childhood conditioning shapes adult self-worth- Why anxious and avoidant patterns make self-love harder- The trap of self-appeasement and over-negotiating with yourself- How self-loathing builds when you stay stuck in your own head- Using real relationships to rebuild a sense of value- Meditation as a way to observe thoughts instead of believing them- Small habits that slowly create authentic self-respect

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Is Self Love Really The Answer?

In this episode Dr. K breaks down why most people cannot “fall in love with the grind” no matter how hard they try. The real problem is exhaustion. Not the good kind of tired you feel after a full day on the lake, but the worn-out, stretched-thin kind that builds up from emotional avoidance, poor focus, and physical deconditioning. Weekends and vacations only mask the issue instead of fixing it, and modern habits like using devices before bed or relying on substances wreck the REM sleep needed for recovery.

He explains that loving the grind only becomes possible after rebuilding your capacity. That means emotional conditioning, better focus, strengthening the body, and viewing your current work as a stepping stone to the life you want. The first weeks are harder and more tiring, but over a few months your baseline energy rises, your work becomes more manageable, and the grind starts to feel rewarding instead of draining.

Topics include:

Why most exhaustion comes from emotional suppression, not workload
How poor focus and constant distraction drain more energy than the work itself
The impact of physical weakness, posture issues, and poor sleep on daily fatigue
Why REM sleep is essential for emotional processing and daily reset
Reconditioning yourself through emotional awareness, focus training, and basic movement
How to frame your current job as a stepping stone so your brain stops giving up

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Why "The Grind" Isn't Meant For Everyone

Dr. K talks about what it really means to “have no personality” and why so many people feel like NPCs in their own life. He explains that a lot of people who say this aren’t clinically depressed or totally isolated, but feel like life is just a series of side quests with no main quest, no clear sense of who they are, and no strong preferences of their own.

He breaks down three big patterns he sees in these people: living by “what’s right” instead of what they actually want, being extremely risk averse, and constantly chasing identity through groups and labels. From goths to gamers to political identities, he shows how over-identifying with a group can become a mask that blocks you from discovering your real self. He also defines personality in a concrete way: how you interpret situations, how you feel inside, and how you behave in response.

Using examples from his practice and his own life, Dr. K talks about cultural conditioning (especially in immigrant and Asian families), the pressure to maximize your advantages, and how suppressing desire leads to a flat, “empty” existence. He then lays out what actually helps: noticing how comfort, efficiency, and fear shape your choices, allowing yourself to do things that aren’t perfectly “optimal,” taking meaningful risks, and stretching your capacities instead of always staying where you’re safe and competent. Over time, those choices are how you actually build a personality.

Topics include:Feeling like an NPC, side quests without a main questThe trap of always doing the “right” or efficient thingComfort and risk aversion as personality killersIdentity vs identification (goth, gamer, trad wife, politics, etc.)How family expectations and culture suppress desireWhat personality really is: perception, internal reaction, behaviorWhy you fantasize about disaster forcing you to “prove yourself”Noticing your mental rulebook and changing itStretching your competence instead of “smurfing” through life

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You're Boring Because You're Afraid To Change

Dr. K digs into the emerging research on “AI-induced psychosis” and why he changed his mind from thinking it was media fearmongering to seeing real psychiatric risk. He explains how chatbots can act like a technological folie à deux (shared delusion), where empathic, sycophantic AI slowly amplifies your paranoia, isolates you from other people, and erodes your reality testing. Drawing from recent papers, he walks through how different models compare in delusion confirmation, harm enablement, and safety interventions, and then gives a practical checklist so you can tell if your own AI use is drifting into dangerous territory.

Topics include:

 What “technological folie à deux” is and how shared delusions can form with a chatbot

 Bidirectional belief amplification: you vent, AI validates, your paranoia escalates

 Anthropomorphizing AI and why “I know it’s just a tool” doesn’t protect your emotional brain

 How sycophantic design (always trying to please the user) directly opposes healthy psychotherapy

 Epistemic drift: slowly moving from normal thinking into increasingly delusional narratives

 Case example of harmful, unsafe advice (e.g., “healthy” bromine alternative leading to toxicity)

 Research comparing models on delusion confirmation, harm enablement, and safety response

 The ways AI can weaken reality testing, reinforce suicidal or paranoid ideas, and increase isolation

 Self-assessment questions: frequency of use, emotional attachment, replacing friends, following AI advice

 Guidelines for using AI more safely and when elevated risk means you should talk to a professional

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Why Someone Hates You for No Reason (Displaced Hatred)

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