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Dr.K

The Podcast form of HealthyGamerGG! Tune in for weekly updates from the channel to learn more about mental health, wellness, and how to become a Healthy Gamer!

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In this episode, Dr. K breaks down why ADHD can quietly erode relationships—and why it’s still fixable once you can see the pattern. He opens with bleak data (most partners report ADHD significantly harms the relationship and that they feel forced to “compensate”), then reframes those stats as useful: patterns are predictable, and predictable means preventable. The core issue he names is symptomatic misperception—a neurotypical partner interprets ADHD behaviors (forgetting, distractibility, missed plans) as “you don’t care,” creating an emotional injury on top of the practical problem. From there, he explains how many people with ADHD develop dysfunctional adaptations (like masking, shutting down emotionally, or avoiding commitments) to avoid conflict, but those coping strategies create new damage. He offers a repair approach: map the recurring behavior → identify what emotion you’re trying to avoid in your partner (often disappointment) → build a shared plan to tolerate and address that emotion without avoidance. He closes by highlighting pragmatic communication (turn-taking, not interrupting, tracking topics, nonverbal cues) as a common ADHD struggle that affects “connectedness,” and points toward couples-based ADHD therapy and skills training as evidence-based ways to improve.

Topics covered include:
Symptomatic misperception: ADHD symptoms being misread as a lack of care
The “two injuries” problem: the practical miss (cake) + the meaning attached to it
Dysfunctional adaptations: masking, avoidance, indecision, emotional shutdown
A repair map: behavior → what you’re preventing → the core emotion → alternative plan
Pragmatic communication skills and why ADHD disrupts conversational “flow”

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Why ADHD Brains Don't Have Space For Relationships

In this episode, Dr. K reframes “zoning out” as your brain’s attempt to restore attention and reclaim cognitive bandwidth—not just a bad habit to eliminate. He explains how zoning out increases when you’re tired, overwhelmed, bored, or carrying unresolved emotional stress, and uses a patient example (ADHD feeling like it’s “getting worse”) to show how hidden mental load and emotional uncertainty can drain working memory. He introduces insights from attention restoration theory, then breaks down how multitasking and “just get started / take small steps” advice can backfire by keeping you stuck in constant task-switching. The takeaway is a productivity reset: prioritize finishing tasks, reduce multitasking, and deliberately schedule true non-productive time so your brain can process internal problems instead of forcing them to surface during work.

Topics covered include:
Why zoning out happens and how it restores “cognitive RAM”
How unresolved emotional stress increases distraction and task-switching
Attention Restoration Theory and why nature/rest can replenish focus
Why “just get started” + multitasking can sabotage productivity
Practical fixes: focus on task completion, minimize multitasking, and plan real downtime

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Why Zoning Out Is A Hidden Skill

In this episode, Dr. K explores “the deep hurt”—a persistent inner ache that can remain even when life is going well and traditional healing improves symptoms like anxiety, depression, or trauma responses. He describes how this pain can feel unusually dense and powerful, sometimes even adding depth, creativity, and compassion rather than simply feeling “bad.” Dr. K walks through several possible explanations—ranging from early “primitive” trauma, to generational/epigenetic inheritance, to spiritual frameworks like karma and reincarnation—while acknowledging that none fully explain it yet. He closes by introducing a Buddhist concept of bodhicitta, or the “wound of compassion,” suggesting that deep inner peace can sometimes open into a profound sensitivity to others’ suffering, which can become a source of purpose and meaningful action.

Topics covered include:
How the “deep hurt” can persist even after mental health symptoms improve
Why healing can make this pain feel more intense or more noticeable
Possible explanations: unformulated unconscious material, primitive early trauma, and epigenetic inheritance
Spiritual frameworks Dr. K considers: meditation, past-life impressions, karma/reincarnation
Bodhicitta and the “wound of compassion” as a path from inner peace to deeper empathy and purpose

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The Pain That's Deeper Than Depression

Why do some people seem to hate you no matter what you do, even when you have not done anything wrong? Dr. K calls this displaced hatred, anger that cannot be aimed at the real source, so it gets redirected onto a safer target. He uses Snape’s unfair treatment of Harry as a clean example of how this happens when love, loss, and betrayal collide.

From there, he brings it into real life: family dynamics, workplaces, and even online anger. Once you can spot displaced hatred, you stop wasting energy trying to win someone over in an unwinnable situation, and you can start tracing your own persistent anger back to the person or wound you “aren’t allowed” to be mad at.

Topics Included

-What displaced hatred is, and why it feels so unfair to the target
-Snape, Lily, James, and Harry as a case study in redirected anger
-Why the mind struggles to hold love and hate toward the same person
-A therapy insight: the parent you do not talk about can hold the real pain
-How “good parent” narratives can hide resentment about lack of protection
-Common real world pattern: coworker anger that is actually about the boss
-Why killing someone with kindness often fails when the issue is not you
-How displaced hatred keeps you taking responsibility for someone else’s problem-The role of self hatred, depression, and why anger can get redirected outward

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Why Someone Hates You for No Reason (Displaced Hatred)

In this episode, Dr. K sits down with therapist and trauma educator Patrick Teahan to explore how childhood trauma continues to shape adult relationships, identity, and emotional regulation. They unpack how early survival patterns can clash with adult goals, leading to procrastination, anxiety, avoidance, and chronic inner conflict. Rather than framing these struggles as personal failure, the conversation reframes them as adaptations that once protected us but now hold us back.

The discussion moves into attachment styles, intimacy, and projection, showing how unresolved childhood dynamics often replay themselves in romantic relationships. Dr. K and Patrick explain why healing can feel destabilizing, how emotional numbing gets mistaken for peace, and what real integration looks like when growth shifts from forcing change to building emotional flexibility.

Topics covered include:
-How childhood trauma creates conflict between emotions and adult goals-Anxious and avoidant attachment patterns in adult relationships-Why healing can disrupt relationships built on shared dysfunction-Projection of parental wounds onto romantic partners-The difference between emotional numbness and true emotional stability

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How Does Trauma Affect Your Relationship w/ @patrickteahanofficial ​

Ever notice how you can be chatting effortlessly, then the moment a new person shows up, you freeze and your brain goes blank? In this episode, Dr. K breaks down why some conversations feel smooth and others suddenly become hard, especially when you feel judged, intimidated, or you want to make a good impression.

He explains the nervous system shift that happens in real time, how threat detection hijacks your social flow, and why trying to force yourself to be charming makes it worse. Then he gives a simple roadmap to get back into a relaxed, fluid vibe using breathing, repeated low stakes exposure, and a curiosity based mindset shift.

Topics Included

-Why conversation flows when you are relaxed, and collapses when you feel evaluated
-Parasympathetic vs sympathetic nervous system in social moments
How bullying or past social pain trains your brain to treat strangers as threats
-Amygdala activation and the freeze response
-How overthinking and self monitoring kills conversational flow
-A stroke example that shows how the frontal lobes can inhibit free speech
-Fast in the moment reset using slow exhalations
-Exposure therapy for social ease through small benign interactions
-Practical starter reps with low pressure strangers
-Using curiosity to replace threat scanning and get back into connection
-Reframing small talk as a rare chance to meet a unique person
-Letting go of needing approval, especially from people you will never see again

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How To Act Natural In Conversations

In this episode, Dr. K breaks down procrastination in a way that cuts past motivation hacks, productivity systems, and self blame. He explains why procrastination is not a character flaw, lack of discipline, or missing willpower, but the result of how the mind operates and how we relate to it. When we stay fused with our thoughts, the mind quietly decides for us, then keeps us busy with internal debate so we feel like we tried.

The conversation reframes discipline and self respect as actions, not traits you acquire. Dr. K explores how avoidance builds momentum over time, why waiting to “feel ready” keeps you stuck, and how believing there is a finished version of yourself actually undermines change. The episode offers a grounded, sometimes uncomfortable approach to breaking the cycle by changing how you respond to your mind in the moment, not by perfecting your system or your future self.

Topics Include:

-Why procrastination feels like conflict even when the decision is already made
-Why discipline and self respect are verbs, not things you possess
-How the mind manipulates you by offering better plans for tomorrow
-The difference between training your mind and negotiating with it
-Why insight alone does not change behavior

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Why You Keep Telling Yourself I'll Do It Tomorrow

Some people walk into a room and everything changes. They do not speak louder, try harder, or perform better, yet others feel calmer, steadier, and more grounded around them. This episode breaks down what Dr. K calls true or divine aura, which is different from confidence or charisma and cannot be faked through social skills.

Dr. K explores how this kind of presence often emerges after profound psychological and existential collapse, when all normal coping mechanisms fail and a person connects to something deeper than ego, status, or validation. He explains why this stability feels magnetic to others, how it can be misused, and why chasing it directly is usually the wrong move.

Topics Included

What separates true aura from confidence or charisma
Why modern psychology avoids studying divinity and aura
The role of empathy and emotional stability in presence
How extreme suffering can dissolve the ego
Connection to the divine as a psychological experience
Why people with aura seem immune to intimidation or rejection
How cult leaders misuse this kind of presence
Ick resistance and the link between aura and compassion
Why longing for aura can actually block it
A healthier way to live without chasing transformation

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Why Some People Have Divine Aura

Dr. K joins Ludwig and Squeex in the middle of an intense Dark Souls marathon to unpack a growing tension that goes beyond the game. What starts as frustration over skill differences quickly turns into a deeper conversation about resentment, competition, validation, and what happens when collaboration turns into comparison.

As the conversation unfolds, Dr. K walks them through real relationship dynamics in real time. They explore how cycles of blame form, why arguing over who is “right” often makes things worse, and how resentment quietly builds when people feel unheard or undervalued. The episode becomes a live breakdown of how to move from winning arguments to actually repairing trust.

Topics include:
Why focusing on “the truth” can damage relationships
How resentment builds between teammates and collaborators
Competition vs cooperation in close partnerships
Feeling respected versus feeling understood
Why validation matters more than being right
Breaking cycles of blame and escalation
How to repair tension without keeping score

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Couples Counseling w/ @Ludwig and @Squeex

Dr. K breaks down why so many people struggle with self-love and why the usual advice to “just love yourself” never works. He explains how early attachment, people pleasing, and constant self-negotiation slowly disconnect you from your own wants until you can’t tell who you are or what you deserve. Instead of treating self-love like a mindset hack, he shows how your environment and relationships quietly shape your sense of worth.

He also lays out what actually moves the needle. That includes changing the way you talk to yourself, breaking the habit of appeasing your own anxiety, letting others reflect your value, and using meditation to stop fusing with every negative thought. Dr. K reframes self-love as something you grow into through awareness and experience, not something you magically “decide” to have.

Topics include:- How childhood conditioning shapes adult self-worth- Why anxious and avoidant patterns make self-love harder- The trap of self-appeasement and over-negotiating with yourself- How self-loathing builds when you stay stuck in your own head- Using real relationships to rebuild a sense of value- Meditation as a way to observe thoughts instead of believing them- Small habits that slowly create authentic self-respect

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Is Self Love Really The Answer?

Today Dr.K and Amouranth go through her worst ban requests, do some guided meditation, and some yoga!
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