The idea that you are a blend of the 5 people you spend time with has a dangerous side. In fact, it's not exactly true.
In this episode, I break down why the Growth Mindset is actually about autonomy, not assimilation. I share the story of my best friend Laurie—a guy with zero ambition who taught me how to relax and actually saved my career during burnout.
I also look at Sahil Lavingia, who blended his Silicon Valley builder mindset with a country level ambitions to enjoy his success without chasing billions.
Real growth isn't about surrounding yourself with clones; it's about treating influence like a buffet. You take the relaxation from one friend, the drive from another, and the curiosity from a stranger you met for an hour. You are not a result; you are a selector.
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CHAPTERS
00:00 You are not the 5 people you spend time with
01:01 What is growth mindset
01:26 How people really affect growth
04:11 Don't be prevented from being yourself
04:38 Best friends
08:42 You choose your inspiration
09:27 Minimal time, big effect
10:44 Prioritize healthy relationships
11:27 Don't spend time with only one type of person
12:04 Sahil Lavingia and GumRoad
13:51 Variety is the spice of life
14:52 Questions to journal on
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