What Drives Covert Narcissist's Behavior

Can we truly understand the mind of a covert narcissist, especially in the context of true crime? This question sets the stage for a fascinating conversation on the podcast "Hidden Killers" between host Tony Brueski and Heather Boorman Morris, a trauma therapist and founding director of Boorman Counseling. Their discussion delves into the psyche of covert narcissists and their impact in both true crime and everyday life.

Their conversation touched on the concept of "the maybe factor" – the idea that people often cling to hope in difficult situations, hoping for improvement. Brueski remarked, "We're more likely to hang on for that breadcrumb versus knowing that, hey, the big buffet's over here with everything."

Boorman Morris highlighted studies from the 1950s by B.F. Skinner that demonstrated the power of intermittent reinforcement. She explained how this concept is exploited by covert narcissists to manipulate and control their targets. "There's more dopamine released in the anticipation of a loving action than there is during the loving action," she noted, underscoring the psychological mechanisms at play.

Their dialogue also explored the deep-seated shame that drives narcissistic behaviors. Covert narcissists, Boorman Morris argued, are less concerned with the impact of their actions on others and more focused on avoiding negative perceptions and maintaining a facade. "They care far more about public image than they do about the people who are close to them," she stated, highlighting the distorted priorities of such individuals.

The discussion concluded with an intriguing perspective on the narcissists' obsession with image and control. Brueski and Boorman Morris agreed that for covert narcissists, the opinion of the public often outweighs the views of those closest to them.

This insightful exchange on "Hidden Killers" sheds light on the complex and often misunderstood nature of narcissism, particularly in its covert form. It leaves us pondering: How can we recognize and protect ourselves from the subtle yet profound impact of covert narcissists in our lives and society?

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Lydbog: 21. februar 2024