Is Rex Heuermann A Covert Narcissist?

Could it be that the most extreme behaviors of narcissists are so outlandish, they become almost undetectable to those closest to them? This intriguing question forms the core of a recent episode of "Hidden Killers," where host Tony Brueski and trauma therapist Heather Boorman discussed the complexities of relationships involving narcissists, particularly focusing on the case involving the man accused of being the Long Island serial killer and his wife, Asa Ellerup.

Boorman, an expert in trauma therapy, suggested that psychological coercive control might play a significant role in such relationships. She emphasized that the real abuse in these dynamics is not physical but psychological, stating, "The real abuse is the psychological manipulation and the psychological trauma." She pointed out that victims often feel responsible for the abuser's actions, leading them to excuse and cover up their behaviors.

Discussing the possibility of Asa Ellerup's awareness of her husband's alleged crimes, Boorman acknowledged the complexity of the situation. She explained how victims of narcissistic abuse might not see the full extent of the narcissist's actions due to a combination of self-doubt, the abuser's skillful manipulation, and the victim's own psychological conditioning.

Boorman also touched upon the concept of 'incels' or involuntary celibates, suggesting that individuals in this group often harbor resentment and anger towards those they perceive as rejecting them. This discussion broadened the scope of the conversation to include various facets of extreme narcissistic behaviors and their impact on interpersonal relationships and society at large.

The episode also delved into the case of Brian Koberger, highlighting the difficulty in diagnosing such complex characters. Boorman speculated about potential neurodiversity or mental health issues that might contribute to such behavior, emphasizing the importance of understanding the nuances of these cases.

This insightful episode of "Hidden Killers" not only sheds light on the hidden dynamics of narcissistic relationships but also leaves the audience pondering a critical question: How can we begin to unravel the complex web of manipulation and control woven by narcissists, and what does it take to see the truth behind their façade?

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Lydbog: 23. februar 2024