Eat, Pray, Set Boundaries: The psychology of getting your needs met

How often do you say no?

In this episode, I unpack the beautiful mess that is boundary-setting—with stories, psychology, and a touch of Brexit. This episode dives deep into what it really means to assert your needs.

Boundaries aren’t about building walls—they’re more like installing a front door with a lock you actually use. We explore why people-pleasing kills self-respect, how resentment creeps in when you’re too “nice,” and why your future depends on the limits you’re willing to draw today.

What you’ll take away:

10 signs of poor boundaries

How to spot a weak boundary before it drains your energy

Why saying no can be the kindest thing you do

You teach people how to treat you by what you tolerate

How to identify emotional manipulation in everyday relationships

A quadrant model that makes difficult conversations easier

Listen now if you’re ready to stop being agreeable and start being respected.

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Episode: Eat, Pray, Set Boundaries: The psychology of getting your needs met

Chapters:

00:00 Setting boundaries for how you want to be treated

02:58 Boundaires in life Example

05:10 Why boundaries need balance

07:19 10 signs of poor boundaries

07:35 Difficulty making decisions

07:58 Feeling selfish for saying no

08:18 Frequent apologizing

08:49 Uncertainty about what to share

09:13 Passive aggressiveness

09:49 Losing sense of self

10:10 Need for external validation

10:26 Resentment

10:43 Constant sense of fatigue

11:02 Dramatic relationships

11:34 Abusive situations

15:03 Identifying crap boundaries

15:14 Floppy boundary

17:22 Rigid boundary

19:10 Why we struggle with boundaries

23:09 Creating healthy boundaries

23:39 Personal boundaries

24:07 Social boundaries

25:24 Value-based boundaries

26:43 Communicating boundaries

28:25 Traffic light framework

31:58 The importance of independence

34:41 Book suggestions

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