Eat, Pray, Set Boundaries: The psychology of getting your needs met

How often do you say no?

In this episode, I unpack the beautiful mess that is boundary-setting—with stories, psychology, and a touch of Brexit. This episode dives deep into what it really means to assert your needs.

Boundaries aren’t about building walls—they’re more like installing a front door with a lock you actually use. We explore why people-pleasing kills self-respect, how resentment creeps in when you’re too “nice,” and why your future depends on the limits you’re willing to draw today.

What you’ll take away:

10 signs of poor boundaries

How to spot a weak boundary before it drains your energy

Why saying no can be the kindest thing you do

You teach people how to treat you by what you tolerate

How to identify emotional manipulation in everyday relationships

A quadrant model that makes difficult conversations easier

Listen now if you’re ready to stop being agreeable and start being respected.

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Episode: Eat, Pray, Set Boundaries: The psychology of getting your needs met

Chapters: 00:00 Setting boundaries for how you want to be treated 02:58 Boundaires in life Example 05:10 Why boundaries need balance 07:19 10 signs of poor boundaries 07:35 Difficulty making decisions 07:58 Feeling selfish for saying no 08:18 Frequent apologizing 08:49 Uncertainty about what to share 09:13 Passive aggressiveness 09:49 Losing sense of self 10:10 Need for external validation 10:26 Resentment 10:43 Constant sense of fatigue 11:02 Dramatic relationships 11:34 Abusive situations 15:03 Identifying crap boundaries 15:14 Floppy boundary 17:22 Rigid boundary 19:10 Why we struggle with boundaries 23:09 Creating healthy boundaries 23:39 Personal boundaries 24:07 Social boundaries 25:24 Value-based boundaries 26:43 Communicating boundaries 28:25 Traffic light framework 31:58 The importance of independence 34:41 Book suggestions 35:22 Send off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices