105: How To Find A Mentor

Dave Stachowiak: Coaching for Leaders

In Greek mythology, Mentor was a friend of Odysseus and was placed in charge of his son Telemachus when Odysseus left for war.

Merriam-Webster's dictionary calls a mentor, "A trusted counselor or guide."

What do you want to get from mentoring?

Probably what you aren’t good at (or at least not yet) Plus, it's something that's important for you to get better at

Advance planning

Who do you know who's good at that? Are there multiple people? You don't have to know them today Your greatest mentors will never expect anything Identify specifically how someone can help and begin there Make a mind map of the people who could help Create a board of directors

Getting Started

Start off with a specific question Know that not everyone will respond or won’t be willing to help Wait on asking someone to “be a mentor”

Everyone has a different context for this It could seem like a huge commitment It's awkward if they don't want to make that committment

Find a way to connect regularly

This is where proximity and formal programs can help Make a point to connect regularly It’s great to be influenced by those that you don’t speak with regularly, but find people you will see

Be willing to ask for help

Get out of the “asking for help is a weakness” mentality

What’s something in front of you right now that a new perspective would be helpful with? My challenge to you is to go out and identify a person and approach them with a specific question and ask advice. Remember, you don’t have to take the advice. If they don’t respond, identify a second person.

Past shows that might also be helpful to you on the topic of mentoring:

Episode #61: How to Start A Mentoring Program with guest Stella Cowan Episode #63: Practical Advice for Mentoring with guest Kurt Allebach

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Release date

Lydbog: 9. september 2013