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Headgum & Nicole Byer

Love and dating can be messy—so let’s talk about it! On this multi-award-winning podcast, comedian Nicole Byer explores romantic highs, lows, and all the juicy stuff in between, alongside comedians, experts, and sometimes an ex or two. New episodes every Friday!

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

For Roz Hernandez, dating as a sober, trans woman comedian is a trifecta of difficulty - and finding love hasn’t been easy. She tells Nicole about going to 4 different Etsy psychics to sketch her future husband, using Grindr to find dates willing to explore haunted places, and the hookup stories that came from visiting 45 gay bars across the country. She opens up about the surprising ways gay men have treated her, why she’s stopped dating straight men altogether, and the many times she’s been ghosted - in love and in life. Nicole shares why she loves her boyfriend so much, and the two dive into what might really be behind the male loneliness epidemic.

Get tickets to Roz Hernandez's tour at RozHernandezTour.com

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Ghosting, Gaslighting, and Gay Bars (w/ Roz Hernandez)

International award-winning burlesque dancer Jessabelle Thunder joins Nicole to talk about why so many partners say they’re cool with burlesque - until they’re not. She shares how she transformed from a shy girl into a commanding headliner, the different styles of burlesque dancing, and the time she broke her ankle on stage mid-show. Jessabelle also relives a London date with an Irish DJ who argued he should be allowed to say the N-word. Plus, Nicole forgets her meds, spirals on the future of AI, and goes to a pet psychic to figure out why Cylde be biting.

Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast

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Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

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Dating Life of a Burlesque Superstar (w/ Jessabelle Thunder)

Before she was an activist, Monica Lewinsky was the most publicly shamed woman in America. Now, she's reclaiming her story, and her dating life.

For the 400th episode of Why Won’t You Date Me?, Monica joins Nicole to talk about dating after a major scandal, being labeled “unmatchable” on eHarmony, and learning to enjoy life when pop culture won’t stop referencing you. She reflects on hosting the wild early-2000s reality show Mr. Personality, shares the worst dates she’s ever had (including ones she walked out on), and even offers up the exact scripts she uses when there’s just no spark.

Plus, stick around to the very end as Nicole gets a little reflective on what 400 episodes of the show have meant to her.

Check out Monica's podcast, Reclaiming with Monica Lewinsky.

Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast

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Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

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Dating after a Major Scandal (w/ Monica Lewinsky)

Exciting news from Nicole: Best Friends is BACK and 1) now on Headgum, 2) with FULL VIDEO EPISODES! 

Enter the pantheon of best friendship and check out Nicole and Sasheer's first episode back, available now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. New episodes every Wednesday.

Subscribe to the Best Friends YouTube channel https://youtube.com/@NicoleandSasheer for video episodes.

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A lil update from Nicole: Best Friends is back!

Comedian Devon Walker (SNL) joins Nicole to tell the story of how he met his girlfriend on a live blind date podcast. He figured it was just a bit - until the audience voted for them to win an Applebee’s gift card and that turned into their actual first date. 3 years later, they’re still together! He and Nicole also talk about the woman who went viral eating 48 oysters on a first date, why it’s a red flag if your partner suddenly starts doing open mics, and how it feels when people send you unsolicited sex tapes in the DMs. Devon shares the absolute nightmare of trying to break up with someone who flooded his phone with scroll-after-scroll of chaotic texts. Plus: He shares the SNL sketch he’s dying to get on air, and they do a deep dive into the food mascot universe - who’s comforting, who’s cursed, and why the Bubba Gump shrimp must be stopped.

Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast

Check out Devon's podcast, My Favorite Lyrics with Devon Walker.

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Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.

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We Met on a Podcast (w/ Devon Walker)

Comedian and friend Josh Sharp (Dicks: The Musical) returns to the podcast! Nicole and Josh kick things off by reminiscing about the chaotic live show where Nicole interviewed a man in the audience she had slept with. From there, they get into Josh’s foolproof flirting strategy at the club, Annabelle the haunted doll’s cursed tour across America, attending a Big Dick contest, and Josh’s near-death experience in Puerto Vallarta that left him facedown in the ocean with no memory of his own name.

They also discuss the realities and benefits of open relationships, how to quiet negative self-talk while dating, and the dangers of eating straight men’s ass. Fun times!

In New York? Get tickets to Josh Sharp's show, Ta-da! at joshsharptada.com.

Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast

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Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Why Won't You Date Me? via Gumball.fm.

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Flirting, Open Relationships, and Almost Dying (w/ Josh Sharp)

Drag queen icon Meatball is back! She and Nicole get into it all - being in her top era, loving the single life, and having weekend boyfriends in different cities. But also... why dating is still so hard when you do drag. Meatball opens up about losing guys the second they find out she’s a queen, and how frustrating it is watching her roster shrink because of it. And of course, the wild date stories are endless - projectile vomiting in a car on a date, sucking 3 different dicks in one night (one the size of a beer can), a hookup who did stand-up after sex, and turning down a dude mid-date for turning on fart porn. It's a wild one. Tune in!

You can buy Meatball's jarred farts at meatland.bigcartel.com (it is currently sold out)

Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast

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Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

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Nobody Wants to Date a Drag Queen (w/ Meatball)

Happy 4th of July!(?) Comedian Lou Wilson (Dimension 20, Jimmy Kimmel Live!) joins Nicole to reflect on the wild state of America. He shares his terrible time living in Boston, where white guys frequently asked him for the N-word pass. They talk about what it was like to sell out Madison Square Garden in just 10 minutes withDimension 20, being a “silly billy” on dates, and the moment Lou realized bits don’t always land on dates when you’re trying to build intimacy. They also bond over the guilty thrill of watching other couples on visibly bad dates, and the drama they've witnessed unfold one table over. Plus, Lou reminds Nicole that they once dated. Nicole completely forgot. He gives an honest review of what it was like to date her, and why there was never a second date. Y'all, it's a wild one.

Check out Lou Wilson's podcast, Worlds Beyond Number.

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Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

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We Dated?! (w/ Lou Wilson)

Actress Jessica Lowe (The Righteous Gemstones, Minx, Wrecked) joins Nicole to share the romantic saga of falling in love on a Second City cruise ship. On the ship, she met a British bassist who became her cruise ship boyfriend - whom she later realized wasn’t as smart as she thought his accent sounded (he tried to dry his pants on a ceiling fan and designed a nightmare demon tattoo for himself).

Jessica recalls dating a Dutch chef with a penis that was “too much!” and recounts what might be the most romantic first date ever told on the podcast. She reflects on the men who surprised her, disappointed her, and the slow work of building a relationship that actually lasted.

Plus, Jessica and Nicole reminisce about the chaos of filming Curse Friends when everyone tested positive for COVID - and Nicole opens up about sobbing in a makeup chair over a man who simply wasn’t worth it.

Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast

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Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

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A Cruise Ship Romance with a Himbo (w/ Jessica Lowe)

TV writer Lauren Ashley Smith (A Black Lady Sketch Show, Smith Sisters Live) joins Nicole to talk about how she met her wife the old-fashioned way - through Time Out New York’s Singles issue.

Lauren reveals the strange public response to being a “bachelor” in a magazine, how her wife was one of the only white women working at BET, and the complications that came with planning an interracial lesbian wedding.

She also recalls a bizarre school Valentine’s Day test that matched students based on compatibility, and she and Nicole discuss who gets to keep the friends after a breakup. Plus, Nicole gets a magical hot massage and somehow walks away being fluent in Greek.

And Lauren shares one big piece of dating advice: why straight people should try dating more like lesbians -letting go of the gender roles getting in the way.

Watch this episode on our YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/@WhyWontYouDateMePodcast

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Nicole's book, #VERYFAT #VERYBRAVE: indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

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I Was a Time Out Magazine Bachelor (w/ Lauren Ashley Smith)

Drag queen Gigi Goode (Drag Race S12) joins Nicole for a supersized live episode of the podcast! They talk about her trans journey during the pandemic, how the type of people who are attracted to her has changed since transitioning, making friends through Tinder, and shares her experience being in a long term relationship with a partner who's asexual. She also tells just so many, bad, no awful, date stories. 

Plus, an audience Q&A: Do queens get cozy on the set of Drag Race? Is it possible to date someone you're not attracted to? What's the best one-liner for a dating app? Dive in to find out!

Recorded live at The Elysian 4/5/2023.

 

Nicole wants to hear from you! Need some dating or relationship advice from Nicole and her guest? Submit your question to whywontyoudatemepodcast@gmail.com for a chance to have it answered on an upcoming special mailbag episode.

 

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Dating an Asexual (w/ Gigi Goode)

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