What Attachment Style Are You? How To Know, Why It Matters, and How To Change It If You Need To | Amir Levine

Your health, relationships, and self-esteem all hinge on your attachment style. Here's how to know if you're anxious or avoidant — and how to get more secure. Dr. Amir Levine is a Columbia-trained psychiatrist and neuroscientist and coauthor of the multi-million-copy bestseller Attached, which brought attachment theory into mainstream conversation and remains the #1 book on Amazon in Relationships more than a decade later. His new book Secure expands this work into emotional regulation and everyday well-being. In this episode we talk about: • What attachment theory is • The four attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, secure, and fearful avoidant — and how to identify which one you are • Why your attachment style is not fixed and how it can change • What happens in your brain when you're ignored or excluded • How being securely connected can extend your life • The five pillars of a secure life • How to right-size a relationship with someone unreliable • Small, seemingly insignificant daily interactions as vehicles for change • Two rules of secure engagement that can defuse almost any argument • Why anxious and avoidant attachment styles each have genuine superpowers • How to build your "attachment topography" Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel Join Dan, Sebene Selassie, and Jeff Warren for Meditation Party, a 3-day immersive retreat at the Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY, October 16–18. Grab your in-person spot here, or sign up to livestream here! To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris This episode is sponsored by: BetterHelp: Online therapy, matched to your needs. Get 10% off your first month at https://www.betterhelp.com/happier Wix: Build a fully functional website with AI in minutes at https://www.wix.com/harmony IQBAR: To get twenty percent off all IQBAR products, including the ultimate sampler pack, plus free shipping, text DAN to 64000. Warby Parker: Prescription glasses with virtual try-on. Buy one prescription pair and get 20% off additional prescription pairs at https://www.warbyparker.com/happier