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Dr. Emily Morse

Dr. Emily Morse shares her expertise on sex, relationships and everything in between! Submit your questions to Emily at sexwithemily.com/ask-emily. For more sexy fun, visit sexwithemily.com and our online store shop.sexwithemily.com. Join SmartSX, her exclusive membership community, for expert-led workshops, intimate discussions, and everything you need to elevate your pleasure! Order her book today: SMART SEX: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure.

Sex With Emily

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I’m diving into the truth about fantasies… why we have them, why so many of us are afraid to share them, and how to talk about them with a partner without pressure or shame. I break down what fantasies actually are (and what they’re not), why silence in relationships often comes from self-protection rather than secrecy, and how to create space for honest, judgment-free conversations about sex. I also take live questions from a caller who’s navigating dating transparency, emotional boundaries, and how to communicate clearly without rushing intimacy. This episode originally aired as a live stream, and I’m so excited to bring it to you as a podcast- real talk, real questions, and practical tools to help you feel more connected, confident, and open in your sex life.

ABOUT EMILY:
Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

CONNECT:
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 
X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 
Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?
Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.
Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 
Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 
Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 
Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

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Chapters:
00:00 Fantasies Are Not What You Think

01:16 How To Talk About Fantasies Without Pressure

02:45 Creating A No Judgment Space

04:33 What A Fantasy Actually Is

05:54 The Fear Of Talking About Sex

07:05 Why We Stay Quiet About What We Want

08:09 Different Areas of Fantasies

10:23 What We’re Really Craving 

11:20 How To Bring It Up Without Making It Awkward

12:38 Desire, Control, & Trying New Things

16:47 When Two People Are Moving At Different Speeds

18:10 Getting To Know Your Own Desire First

20:54 Caller: Dating Honestly Without Overthinking It

23:49 How To Ask “What Are We?” In A Natural Way

26:55 Being Honest Without Putting Pressure

29:47 Timing Sex & How to Know When It Feels Right
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How To Ask For What You Want in Bed: Fantasy Edition

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I’m answering your real, unfiltered questions, covering everything from casual sex and whether it’s actually right for you, to performance anxiety and what really happens to your sex life after the honeymoon phase ends. We get into how to talk to your partner about things like blood flow and stress playing a bigger role in arousal than you think, and how to reignite connection when sex starts to feel routine or less frequent. I also break down why scheduling sex isn’t boring- It’s actually one of the most powerful tools for long-term intimacy! Also, solo pleasure can support (not replace) your relationship. If you’ve ever wondered “is this normal?” when it comes to your sex life… this episode is for you.

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ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

 

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Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to the LIVE

01:10 Let’s Talk Sex Without the Awkwardness

02:32 When Casual Sex Just Doesn’t Feel Right

03:06 Caller Question: Feeling Weird or Guilty About Viagra

05:04 How to Bring It Up With Your Partner

06:13 The Pressure Guys Feel in Bed

07:25 Expectations & Real Talk

08:01 Blood Flow & What’s Actually Going On

09:18 New Fixes: Shockwave Therapy

10:28 Caller Question: Why Sex Slows Down

11:30 The Honeymoon Phase Is Over… Now What?

12:48 Keeping Things Fun & Exciting

14:02 Finding the Best Time for Sex

31:13 Why You Gotta Prioritize Your Sex Life
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Is Your Sex Life “Normal”?

I know what you're thinking. Missionary? Really? But hear me out, because I genuinely believe missionary might be the most underrated position in existence, and the reason most people are bored by it has nothing to do with the position itself. It has everything to do with what they're not doing in it.

In this episode, I'm breaking down every missionary myth, sharing the techniques that actually work for clitoral stimulation during penetration, and answering your listener's questions on everything from G-spot orgasms to asking your partner to bend you over the kitchen table.

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why the porn version of penetrative sex works for only about 30% of vulva owners and what the rest of us actually need to get there, including the CAT technique that makes missionary the best position for clitoral stimulation

 • How to tell your partner you want them to dominate you, talk dirty, and bring more intensity to sex without making them feel like they've been doing it wrong this whole time

 • Why incorporating a vibrator into partnered sex is one of the best things you can do for your sex life, and how to ask for it even if you're a people pleaser who's spent years putting everyone else's comfort before your own pleasure

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More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:03 - What's Actually Great About Missionary (That Most People Miss)

5:26 - Dispelling the Myth That Missionary Is Boring

8:21 - The CAT Technique: Best Missionary Position for Clitoral Stimulation

9:29 - Listener Question: Mental Block Around Trying New Positions

13:15 - Dispelling the Myth That Missionary Can't Be Kinky

13:28 - Listener Question: How to Ask Your Partner to Be More Dominant

18:27 - Dispelling the Myth That Vulva Owners Can't Orgasm in Missionary

19:02 - Listener Question: Clitoral vs. Penetrative Orgasms & the G-Spot Explained

23:32 - Listener Question: How to Use a Vibrator During Missionary Without the Bulk

26:06 - A Note to People Pleasers: Your Pleasure Matters Too
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Missionary Isn’t Boring, You’re Just Doing It Wrong

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I dive into your real-time questions about sex, dating, desire, and connection… breaking down what might actually be blocking you from the intimacy and pleasure you want. From why it can feel harder to approach people or build attraction, to how stress, overthinking, and disconnection from your body and partner impact desire, I unpack the hidden patterns shaping your sex life. We explore everything from casual sex after breakups to how couples can reignite the spark, approach intimacy more intentionally, and create more ease, confidence, and fun in both sex and modern dating. 

ABOUT EMILY:

Emily Morse is a Doctor of Human Sexuality, author and host of the #1 rated Sex with Emily podcast. Known as a renowned sexologist, Dr. Emily has helped millions of people around the world navigate their sex lives. Her candid and often funny conversations challenge cultural taboos, misinformation and awkward sex talks to create a future where people can deeply connect and embrace pleasure-filled lives. Because, life is too short for bad sex. 

CONNECT:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ 

X: https://twitter.com/sexwithemily 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily 

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily 

Threads: https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily

WANT MORE?

Visit the Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ which includes FREE guides.

Free Downloadable Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ 

Text With Me: https://sexwithemily.com/text 

Receive Sex Tips On The Regular: https://sexwithemily.com/subscribe 

Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to http://sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to the LIVE

01:16 How to Call/Text Your Questions

01:49 Valentine’s Day & 21 Years of Podcasting

02:36 Why Couples Love Listening Together

04:33 Desire vs. Arousal Explained

05:21 Can You Coregasm at the Gym? 

06:59 Blood Flow & Body Responses

07:53 Is This Normal? 

09:02 What Some Women Enjoy Watching 

10:54 Vulnerability in Men & Relationships

12:38 What is Compersion?

14:10 How to Approach Someone at the Gym

18:45 How to Bring Back the Spark in Relationships

21:25 Yes/No/Maybe List (Game-Changer Tool)

23:48 Real-Life Love Stories (Gym & Neighbors)

24:16 Keep Dating Your Partner

27:09 Slow Cooker vs. Frying Pan

28:52 Final Thoughts & Where to Find More
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Why You’re Not Having the Sex You Want (& How to Fix It)

I've said it a thousand times and I'll say it again, the number one thing standing between you and the sex life you actually want is probably one conversation you haven't had yet. Not a new position. Not a new toy. A conversation. And I know that sounds simple, but if it were easy, you wouldn't be talking yourself out of it every single time.

Today, I'm taking live listener calls on some of the most awkward, most avoided, most necessary conversations in sex and relationships, and giving you the exact words to have them.

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • What to do when everything in your relationship is great except the sex — and how to bring it up without making your partner feel like the last nine months were a waste

 • How to give feedback about a smell, a skill, or a habit that's getting in the way of your pleasure — without shame, without cruelty, and without killing the mood

 • Why if you're freezing up every time you want to initiate, the problem probably isn't your partner's response — it's the story you're telling yourself before you even open your mouth

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More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:44 - Caller #1: Sex Is Lackluster After 9 Months — Is It a Dealbreaker?

11:27 - How to Tell Someone They're Bad at Hand Jobs

13:06 - Caller #2: She's Monogamous, He Wants Non-Monogamy

18:55 - Dr. Emily on Ethical Non-Monogamy & Why Timing Matters

19:58 - Caller #3: Should He Tell His Culinary School Crush He Has Feelings?

27:25 - Caller #4: Hemorrhoid Surgery, Skin Tags & Talking About It With Partners

33:39 - Anonymous Question: She Smells — How Do You Bring It Up?

36:06 - Caller #5: She Wants Sex But Freezes Up Before Initiating

42:03 - Dr. Emily's Final Word: If No One Initiates, There's Zero Sex
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The Sex Conversations You're Too Afraid to Have

What if the key to better sex wasn't about technique — it was about learning to feel your own body again? Taryn Toomey, founder of The Class, joined me live at Eudaimonia to break down how 13 years of somatic movement quietly rewired her relationship with pleasure, sound, and receiving — and why the two aren't as different as you'd think.

From faking orgasms in her 20s to purring her way through her "delicious" 40s, Taryn gets raw about her two-year stretch of only receiving oral sex, falling deeply in love after divorce, and what it really means to let someone in — body and soul.

Don't forget to watch the full video podcast on YouTube!

In this episode, you'll learn:

 • Why the sounds you make in a workout and the sounds you make in bed come from the exact same place — and how unlocking one unlocks the other

• How Taryn's two-year "oral sex only" era taught her more about receiving, boundaries, and her own body than any relationship ever did

• The one breathwork tool that works both in The Class and during sex to get out of your head and back into your body — instantly

And if you want to dive deeper into Taryn’s work after listening, we’ve got a little gift for you. Go to https://browse.theclass.digital/ and get 20% off her Digital Platform with the promo code SEXWITHEMILY.

Eudemonia:

• Website

Find Taryn:

• https://www.instagram.com/taryntoomey/

• https://www.taryntoomey.com/

• https://www.theclass.com/

• https://www.instagram.com/theclass/

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

0:20 - Meet Taran Tumi: Founder of The Class & the Embodiment Movement

1:37 - Why It's So Hard to Actually Be in Your Body

4:35 - The Connection Between Voice, Sound & Pleasure

7:41 - Dating After Divorce: What Intimacy Looks Like Now

9:00 - Why Men Struggle with Sound in the Class (And in the Bedroom)

13:28 - How the Class Actually Works: The Method Behind the Movement

17:06 - The Class Gave Her a Great Vagina (And Why That Makes Sense)

18:07 - Heartbreak, Beautiful Love & Learning to Receive

21:30 - The Orgasm Gap & Why Women Can't Receive Oral Sex

24:42 - Breathing, Co-Regulation & Getting Out of Your Head During Sex

28:51 - The Energy You Take Into Your Body: Sex, Attachment & Staying Mindful

32:09 - What Happens When You Stop Performing and Start Feeling

34:01 - Feeling More at Home in Your Body at 47 Than at 20

39:03 - Decades of Sex in a Few Words: Drunk, Formulaic, Delicious

43:45 - Dating as a Single Mom & What Her Daughters Reflect Back

47:01 - One Truth About Pleasure & One Practice to Start Tonight

48:35 - Audience Q&A: How to Ask for Oral Sex, Talking to Daughters About Sex
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Can Making Sound Unlock Better Pleasure? W/ Taryn Toomey

Whether you're trying to work up the nerve to ask out your office crush, figuring out what you actually want in bed, or navigating a decades-long relationship that's hit a sexual wall — the answer almost always comes back to the same thing: you have to be willing to go there. Say the thing. Ask the question. Have the conversation you've been putting off.

In this episode, I'm taking listener calls on everything from the first nervous steps back into dating to the hard conversations that long-term couples are too scared to start.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why dating is a muscle — and what to actually do when you've been out of the game so long that even asking someone out feels impossible

• What really happens to a vulva when a woman is fully aroused, why morning sex resentment is almost never just about morning sex, and what to do when your sexual awakening happens 20 years into a committed relationship

• How to talk to your kids about sex early and often in a way that builds confidence instead of shame — starting with something as simple as using the right words for their body parts

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

2:07 - How to Ask Out an Office Crush Without Overthinking It 

6:06 - Breaking Out of the Friend Zone on a First Date 

9:43 - She Engorged During Orgasm — What Just Happened? 

15:21 - Embracing What Sex Actually Looks and Feels Like 

16:07 - Boyfriend Wants Her to Sleep with Someone Else — Does She Have To?

18:42 - Resentful About 5:30 a.m. Sex & Never Having Orgasms 

22:23 - Sexual Awakening, Open Relationship Fallout & Staying or Going

26:35 - How to Raise a Sex-Positive Son Without Shame 
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What Kills the Spark (And How to Get It Back)

Most women can name every product in their skincare routine but can't tell you the last time they actually paid attention to their vulva. Not because you don't care — because nobody ever taught you to. And that silence is costing women their pleasure, their comfort, and sometimes their health.

In this episode, I sit down with OB-GYN and women's sexual health expert Dr. Sherry Ross — author of the V-ology book series and someone I consider one of the most important voices in women's intimate health — for the most practical, shame-free conversation about vulva and vaginal health I've ever had on this show.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why your vulva needs the same care and attention as your face — and what most of us are getting completely wrong about cleaning, moisturizing, and maintaining vaginal health at every age

• The truth about painful sex, perimenopause, and recurring infections — what's actually causing them, why doctors keep dismissing the symptoms, and the solutions most women have never been told about

• Whether every woman can learn to squirt, what your labia is supposed to look like, and why the clitoris — the road to success — might be the most important thing you're not paying enough attention to

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:51 - Caller #1 (Jamie, 44): Partner Chatting with Sex Workers Online — Is It Cheating?

9:46 - Dr. Emily's Takeaway: Masturbation in Relationships & Staying Curious

10:30 - Caller #2 (Damian, 28): His Wife Is Grossed Out by Touching Herself

16:09 - Caller #3 (Lacy, 25): Love Bombed on a First Date, Then Blocked

23:55 - Caller #4 (Rachel, 25): Getting Back Into Sex After a Long Break

32:23 - Caller #5 (Karina): Dating After Trauma & Learning to Say No

41:00 - Dr. Emily's Final Word: Your No Can Be a Not Yet
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How Trauma Makes You Say Yes When You Mean No

Most women can name every product in their skincare routine but can't tell you the last time they actually paid attention to their vulva. Not because you don't care — because nobody ever taught you to. And that silence is costing women their pleasure, their comfort, and sometimes their health.

In this episode, I sit down with OB-GYN and women's sexual health expert Dr. Sherry Ross — author of the V-ology book series and someone I consider one of the most important voices in women's intimate health — for the most practical, shame-free conversation about vulva and vaginal health I've ever had on this show.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why your vulva needs the same care and attention as your face — and what most of us are getting completely wrong about cleaning, moisturizing, and maintaining vaginal health at every age

• The truth about painful sex, perimenopause, and recurring infections — what's actually causing them, why doctors keep dismissing the symptoms, and the solutions most women have never been told about

• Whether every woman can learn to squirt, what your labia is supposed to look like, and why the clitoris — the road to success — might be the most important thing you're not paying enough attention to

This episode is sponsored by...

Get the LELO SURFER 2 at lelo.com/surfer-2 and use code SWE20 for a stackable 20% off

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:26 - Meet Dr. Sherry Ross: OBGYN & Author of the Shiology Book Series

4:35 - Treat Your Vagina Like the Skin on Your Face

6:32 - The Visual Vaginal Library & Why Porn Is Distorting Body Image

8:08 - Can Every Woman Squirt? Dr. Sherry Weighs In

10:09 - Listener Q&A: Perimenopause Symptoms, Hormones & What to Ask Your Doctor

13:36 - Wearable Dilators: What They Are & Who Actually Needs Them

15:27 - The Real Causes of Painful Sex (Beyond Just Dryness)

18:00 - Recurring UTIs & Yeast Infections: Why They Keep Happening

19:05 - Five Quickie Questions with Dr. Sherry Ross
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Everything About Your Vulva Explained

If you've ever avoided anal because it hurt, felt intimidating, or just had too many unanswered questions — you haven't had the right conversation yet. Whether you're completely new to backdoor play or you've been doing it for years without the proper foundation, most people are skipping the steps that actually make it feel good. And that's not a problem. That's an education problem.

In this episode, I sit down with nationally renowned anal surgeon Dr. Evan Goldstein — founder of Bespoke Surgical and Future Method — for the most honest, shame-free breakdown of anal health and pleasure you're going to find anywhere.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why anal sex should never be painful, what's actually causing the pain, and the exact 4-6 week protocol that prepares your body the right way

• The truth about douching, wet wipes, and why most people are unknowingly damaging their anal microbiome before sex even starts

• How to navigate anal with hemorrhoids, skin tags, or past injuries — and what your options actually are when something goes wrong

This episode is sponsored by...

Try Promescent Delay Spray today and get 15% off your first order. Just go to www.promescent.com/swe

More Dr. Emily: 

• Shop With Emily! Explore Emily’s favorite toys, pleasure accessories, bedroom essentials, and more — designed to support your pleasure and confidence. Free shipping on orders $99+ (some exclusions apply).5

• Interested in 1:1 Coaching with Emily? Go to sexwithemily.com/coaching to apply! 

• Sex With Emily Guides: Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides.

• The only sex book you’ll ever need: Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure

• Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website

• Let’s get social: Instagram | X | Facebook | TikTok | Threads | YouTube

• Let’s text: Sign up here

• Want me to slide into your email inbox? Sign Up Here for sex tips on the regular.

Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:51 - Meet Dr. Evan Goldstein: Anal Surgeon & Founder of Bespoke Surgical

3:46 - Where Does the Taboo Around Anal Come From?

6:54 - The Three Pillars: How to Prepare, Play & Recover

8:07 - The 4 to 6 Week Dilating Protocol Every Beginner Needs

14:08 - Lube 101: Silicone vs. Water-Based & When to Use Each

15:55 - The Lube Shooter, Empowering the Bottom & Why You Can't Assume Your Partner Knows

16:57 - Douching: Why Water and Store-Bought Enemas Can Do More Harm Than Good

20:33 - Less Is More: Gut Health, Fiber & How to Douche the Right Way

23:27 - Aftercare: What to Do If You Tear or Have Pain

24:19 - Beginner Tips: Positions, Partner Communication & Choosing the Right Size

32:38 - Listener Q&A: Hemorrhoids, Skin Tags & Can You Still Have Anal Sex?

36:43 - Listener Q&A: Colon Surgery, Couples Starting Out & Sex Positions by State

42:14 - Why Wet Wipes Are Wrecking Your Microbiome (Anal and Vaginal)

44:45 - Five Quicky Questions with Dr. Goldstein
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What Happens to Your Body During Anal (Surgeon Explains)

This show is dedicated to getting your sex life on the right track, whether that means scheduling your erotic rendezvous, sticking to your bedroom boundaries or expanding your expertise into “other” sorts of oral pleasure.
Sometimes life gets busy, relationships get stale, and sex drives suffer. Emily explains why scheduling time between the sheets with your partner just might be the key to keeping your romance alive and thriving, and shares tips to help make scheduled sex just as hot as the spontaneous variety. She also answers emails from listeners addressing sensitive topics such as sex shaming between partners, uncomfortable sexual pressure and what to do when you want to bang your bestie.
Everyone could use a little push in a new direction every now and then, and Emily is here to deliver it. From fantasy to frequency to fun new oral techniques, this show has the formula to help you keep your sex life fresh. Don’t miss it!
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