How To Ask For What You Want in Bed: Fantasy Edition

In this live episode of Sex With Emily, I’m diving into the truth about fantasies… why we have them, why so many of us are afraid to share them, and how to talk about them with a partner without pressure or shame. I break down what fantasies actually are (and what they’re not), why silence in relationships often comes from self-protection rather than secrecy, and how to create space for honest, judgment-free conversations about sex. I also take live questions from a caller who’s navigating dating transparency, emotional boundaries, and how to communicate clearly without rushing intimacy. This episode originally aired as a live stream, and I’m so excited to bring it to you as a podcast- real talk, real questions, and practical tools to help you feel more connected, confident, and open in your sex life.

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Chapters: 00:00 Fantasies Are Not What You Think

01:16 How To Talk About Fantasies Without Pressure

02:45 Creating A No Judgment Space

04:33 What A Fantasy Actually Is

05:54 The Fear Of Talking About Sex

07:05 Why We Stay Quiet About What We Want

08:09 Different Areas of Fantasies

10:23 What We’re Really Craving

11:20 How To Bring It Up Without Making It Awkward

12:38 Desire, Control, & Trying New Things

16:47 When Two People Are Moving At Different Speeds

18:10 Getting To Know Your Own Desire First

20:54 Caller: Dating Honestly Without Overthinking It

23:49 How To Ask “What Are We?” In A Natural Way

26:55 Being Honest Without Putting Pressure

29:47 Timing Sex & How to Know When It Feels Right Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices