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Aliza Pressman

As a parent, do you ever wish someone could just whisper some realistic and trustworthy support in your ear? And not make you feel awful for not having all the answers? Well, that's what I'm here for.

I'm Dr. Aliza Pressman, developmental psychologist, NYT bestselling author of The Five Principles of Parenting: Your Essential Guide to Raising Good Humans, Associate Clinical Professor, and Co-Founder of the Mount Sinai Parenting Center. And I'm a mom... trying to raise good humans myself, so I'm in this with you!

In each episode, we'll go deep (but brief) with both experts and parents to share the most effective approaches and tools and talk about the important bigger picture of raising good humans. My goal is to make your parenting journey less overwhelming and a lot more joyful!

Please join me every Friday for new episodes of Raising Good Humans.

Raising Good Humans

Is your child's behavior really about who they are — or is it about where you've put them? 

In this episode, Dr. Aliza Pressman sits down with Dr. Angela Duckworth, bestselling author of Grit, MacArthur "Genius" Grant winner, and University of Pennsylvania psychologist, to unpack her powerful new book, Situated. Together they explore why the "fundamental attribution error" causes so many parents to blame a child's character when the real culprit is the situation around them — and why editing that situation, from where you keep your phone to which zip code you live in, is one of the most effective child development strategies parents actually have.

What you’ll learn:

 Why the "fundamental attribution error" makes parents misjudge their kids' behavior

 The "3-foot rule": how personal space and phone placement quietly drive academic performance

 Practical ways to build self-control in kids without relying on willpower alone

 How intentionally choosing a neighborhood or school shapes peer influence and character

 The powerful role of mentors, coaches, and teachers as "surrogate parents"

 Modeling behavior: what your kids are really learning by watching you

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS:

📖 About This Episode's Guest, Dr. Angela Duckworth:https://www.angeladuckworth.com/about

📚 Dr. Duckworth's Book, Situated:https://www.angeladuckworth.com/situated

📚 Dr. Duckworth's Bestseller, Grit:https://www.angeladuckworth.com/grit

Follow Raising Good Humans: 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinggoodhumanspodcast/ 🎙️ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-good-humans/id1473072044

Subscribe on Substack for weekly articles and exclusive LIVE Q&As: 📧 https://dralizapressman.substack.com/

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Angela Duckworth on the Hidden Forces Shaping Your Kid's Behavior

Blaming your kid's attention span on Covid?

In this episode, Dr. Aliza Pressman sits down with Georgetown Professor and developmental psychologist, Dr. Anna Johnson, to unpack a landmark special section of 17 longitudinal studies published in Child Development, the field's top journal. Together they walk through what parents have been told about "Covid kids" versus what the actual research shows about learning loss, executive functioning, and child mental health five years later.

What you’ll learn: 

● Why longitudinal research tells a different story than the "learning loss" headlines 

● Which kids were actually at higher risk — and which weren't 

● Why reading recovered faster than math after school closures 

● How parent-child closeness buffered teens against long-term depression and anxiety 

● The infant study that found zero effect of Covid on biological aging 

● Why grade inflation and parent-teacher distrust may explain more than the pandemic does

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS: 

Learn More About This Episode's Guest: 📖 Dr. Anna Johnson:

https://www.cdsplab.org/faculty

https://gufaculty360.georgetown.edu/s/contact/00336000014TwO9AAK/anna-d-johnson

 🔬 The Child Development special section, "Children's Developmental Trajectories in the Long Shadow of COVID-19": 

https://academic.oup.com/chidev/advance-article/doi/10.1093/chidev/aacag153/8763937

Read more on this topic:

📚https://www.cdsplab.org/tulsa-seed-briefs

📚https://academic.oup.com/chidev/advance-article-abstract/doi/10.1093/chidev/aacaf030/8505765

📚https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2027-01613-001

Follow Raising Good Humans: 📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinggoodhumanspodcast/ 🎙️ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-good-humans/id1473072044

Subscribe on Substack for weekly articles and exclusive LIVE Q&As: 📧 https://dralizapressman.substack.com/

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Were 'Covid Kids' Really Damaged? What 17 New Studies Show

Sending your teen to their first party? 

In this solo episode, developmental psychologist Dr. Aliza Pressman walks parents through exactly how to talk to teenagers about parties before the car ride there. From the alcohol and drug conversation to setting a code word and exit plan, this episode is a practical guide for parenting teenagers through one of the most anxiety-provoking adolescent milestones.

What you’ll learn: 

● Curiosity-first scripts for the "parties, alcohol, and drugs" conversation with your teenager 

● Setting a code word and no-questions-asked exit plan for teen safety 

● How to vet a party: supervision, location, and when privacy isn't up for negotiation 

● Talking about consent and physical safety before parties become a factor 

● What to say (and not say) when you pick your teen up afterward 

● Navigating a friend's secret without breaking your teen's trust in you

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS: 

Buy Dr. Aliza Pressman's Book:

📖Order "The 5 Principles of Parenting" by Dr. Aliza Pressman: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/The-5-Principles-of-Parenting/Aliza-Pressman/9781668014547

Follow Raising Good Humans:

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinggoodhumanspodcast/

🎙️ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-good-humans/id1473072044

Subscribe on Substack for weekly articles and exclusive LIVE Q&As:

 📧 https://dralizapressman.substack.com/

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Here's the Talk to Have Before Your Teen's First Party

Is your child's relationship with food already shaped by guilt, fear, or "good food/bad food" rules — even before they can talk?

Registered dietitian Jennifer Anderson, founder of Kids Eat in Color, joins Dr. Aliza Pressman to unpack "embodied independence" — the idea that raising confident eaters means combining a healthy relationship with food and the practical skills to take care of one's body. This is a must-listen for any parent trying to raise a healthy eater without passing down diet culture baggage.

What you’ll learn:

 Why labeling foods "good" or "bad" creates food rules, guilt, and inflexible thinking later in life

 Practical scripts for introducing dessert without using food as a reward or a bargaining chip

 Red flags for extreme picky eating and ARFID — and when to bring concerns to your pediatrician

 The "sit, connect, and expose" approach that gets even the pickiest toddlers trying new foods

 How to set boundaries with grandparents and relatives around sweets and body comments

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS:

Learn more about Jennifer Anderson’s work: 📖 Feed Them Well: A Guide to Raising Healthy, Confident Eaters for Life https://kidseatincolor.com/landing-pages/feed-them-well-book/?utm_source=podcast-guest&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=book-awareness&utm_content=

📱 Follow Kids Eat in Color on Instagram:@kids.eat.in.color 🧪 Take the Pediatric Screener for ARFID and Extreme Picky Eating (PSAE):https://kidseatincolor.com/picky-eating-and-arfid-screener-for-kids-psa-eat/

Buy Dr. Aliza Pressman's Book:

📖Order "The 5 Principles of Parenting" by Dr. Aliza Pressman: https://www.amazon.com/Principles-Parenting-Essential-Raising-Humans/dp/166801453X

Follow Raising Good Humans:

📱 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinggoodhumanspodcast/

🎙️ Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-good-humans/id1473072044

Subscribe on Substack for weekly articles and exclusive LIVE Q&As:

 📧 https://dralizapressman.substack.com/

This episode is brought to you by:

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Picky Eating & Food Guilt with Jennifer Anderson

Do you know how to disagree with your kid without a fight breaking out?

Most of us have been told that the fix for a bad disagreement is more empathy — really try to see it from their side. But Julia Minson, negotiation researcher at Harvard's Kennedy School, joins Dr. Aliza Pressman to share what her experimental research actually shows: telling someone to "try harder to empathize" barely changes the outcome of a conflict. Instead, Julia and Aliza dig into why disagreement has gotten so much more fraught in families, what really makes someone feel heard, and a concrete, teachable framework for disagreeing with your kids, your partner, or anyone else without torching the relationship.

What you’ll learn:

 Why "try to see it from their perspective" doesn't actually work, according to the research

 "Listening with your words": the specific language that proves you're actually paying attention

 The "curiosity sandwich" — a script for disagreeing without abandoning your own point of view

 Argue, don't fight: how to model constructive disagreement in front of your kids

 The HEAR framework: hedge, emphasize agreement, acknowledge, and reframe to the positive

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS:

 📖 Buy Julia Minson's book, How to Disagree Better

https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/774525/how-to-disagree-better-by-julia-minson/

📱 Follow Raising Good Humans Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/raisinggoodhumanspodcast/ 

📧 Follow Raising Good Humans with Dr. Aliza Pressman on Substack: https://dralizapressman.substack.com/ 

🎙️ Follow Raising Good Humans Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/raising-good-humans/id1473072044

📖Order "The 5 Principles of Parenting" by Dr. Aliza Pressman: https://www.amazon.com/Principles-Parenting-Essential-Raising-Humans/dp/166801453X

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How to Disagree With Your Kids Without Fighting

Do you use your imagination enough?

Most parents think of imagination as something for playtime — a "nice to have" that fades once kids get older and life gets "serious." But Dr. Cassandra Vieten, director of science programs at the Arthur C. Clarke Center for Human Imagination at UC San Diego, joins Dr. Aliza Pressman to make the case that imagination is a trainable skill with real developmental and psychological weight. They unpack the connection between imagination and anxiety, why kids naturally live closer to the "field of possibility" than adults do, and how something as simple as a car-ride question can open up conversations that "how was your day?" never will.

What You’ll Learn:

 The real, physiological link between imagination and anxiety

 How to use your child's favorite fandom as a doorway into connection

 Strategies to turn discipline moments into imagination-building thought experiments

 How to use screens and social media for connection instead of "slot machine" scrolling

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS: 📖 Pre-order "Imagine That: How You Can Transform How You Think, Feel, and Live Through the Science of Imagination" by Dr. Cassandra Vieten: https://cassandravieten.com/books/ 

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How to Raise an Imaginative Child — and Why Imagination Matters More Than You Think

Dr. Aliza Pressman answers your hardest parenting questions: toddler tantrums, screen time guilt, porn talks, vaping teens & social media limits.

Real parenting questions don't come with a manual — so Dr. Aliza Pressman, developmental psychologist and New York Times bestselling author, is answering yours. In this listener Q&A episode, Dr. Pressman offers practical, shame-free parenting strategies rooted in child development research — helping you move from panic and guilt to clarity and connection, no matter what stage your kid is in.

What You’ll Learn:

 How to respond when your young child says "I hate you" without shaming them or ignoring it

 The truth about toddler screen time guilt and whether 45 minutes of Bluey is actually harmful

 Why your well-behaved child falls apart at school pickup (and what to do about it)

 How to talk to your preteen about pornography in a way that's honest, age-appropriate, and shame-free

 How to hold firm on a no-social-media rule at 12 — and where your confidence as a parent comes from

 What to do when you find vapes in your teenager's backpack, and how to have the conversation without blowing up your relationship

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS:

📖Order "The 5 Principles of Parenting" by Dr. Aliza Pressman: https://www.amazon.com/Principles-Parenting-Essential-Raising-Humans/dp/166801453X

📱Follow Raising Good Humans Podcast on Instagram:

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Hard Parenting Questions Answered: 'I Hate You,' Porn Talks, Vapes, and School Pickup Meltdowns

Can you actually grow your brain? Johns Hopkins neurologist Dr. Majid Fotuhi reveals 5 science-backed ways to build brain volume — even in the chaos of parenthood.

In this episode of Raising Good Humans Podcast, Dr. Fotuhi breaks down the research on neuroplasticity and brain health, and helps us all understand how measurable brain growth is possible in as little as 12 weeks.

What You’ll Learn:

 The 5 pillars of brain health and the minimum effective dose for overwhelmed parents

 How poor sleep physically shrinks the brain and whether years of damage can be reversed

 Brain training demystified: why mahjong counts, and a name-memory trick that actually works

 How to rewrite negative narratives that are quietly working against your brain

Your brain isn't declining — it's waiting for the right conditions to grow. The science is more hopeful than you think.

🔗 RESOURCES & LINKS:

📚The Invincible Brain by Dr. Majid Fotuhi: https://www.harpercollins.com/products/the-invincible-brain-majid-fotuhi?variant=43878812614690

🧠The Invincible Brain App (free): 

https://drfotuhi.com/online-course-app/

📖Order "The 5 Principles of Parenting" by Dr. Aliza Pressman: https://www.amazon.com/Principles-Parenting-Essential-Raising-Humans/dp/166801453X

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Your Brain Isn't Declining — It's Waiting for You to Do These Five Things

Should your child get a neuropsychological evaluation? Neuropsychologist Dr. Joanna Jacobs explains what it reveals, who needs one, and why it's not scary.

If you've ever been told your child might need a neuropsychological evaluation and felt your stomach drop, this episode is for you. Dr. Aliza Pressman sits down with neuropsychologist Dr. Joanna Jacobs to demystify what a neuro psych evaluation actually is, what it can tell you about your child's learning profile, and why so many parents leave the process feeling relieved rather than devastated. Whether your child is struggling with reading, attention, executive functioning, or social communication — or whether they seem fine on paper but something feels off at home — this conversation will help you understand what the evaluation process looks like, what questions to ask, and how to make sense of what you find out.

What you'll learn:

 What a neuropsychological evaluation actually measures and who it's designed for 

 Why a diagnosis is a tool for accessing support, not a life sentence — and how to talk about it with your child at any age

 The critical difference between cognitive profile and disorder

 How neurodivergent brains, including those with dyslexia and ADHD, carry genuine strengths that language-based school systems frequently fail to identify or nurture

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What a Neuropsychological Evaluation Actually Reveals About Your Child

Why do constraints help kids thrive? Dr. Aliza Pressman & David Epstein reveal the counterintuitive science of raising resilient, confident children.

If you've ever wondered whether making things easier for your kids is actually holding them back, this episode will stop you in your tracks. Dr. Aliza Pressman sits down with bestselling science writer David Epstein, author of Inside the Box, to unpack the research-backed case for constraints as one of the most powerful — and most misunderstood — tools in child development. From the Harvard Study of Adult Development's landmark findings on chores and confidence, to the neuroscience of why frustration tolerance is a skill every parent should be actively building, this conversation gives you concrete strategies you can implement this week. Starting at the dinner table.

What you’ll learn:

 
Why assigning chores in kindergarten predicts higher self-confidence later, and how to frame them so kids actually want to do them

 
What the Constraints-Led Approach (used by elite sports coaches) can teach every parent about stepping back and letting kids self-organize

 
"Brain first, tool second," David's framework for navigating AI, screens, and the cognitive risks of passive consumption

 
Why anomie (normlessness) drives youth anxiety and how clear family values and rituals act as a protective anchor

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Why Your Kid Needs More Chores, More Boredom, and More Frustration (Yes, Really)

Join me for Part 2 of my conversation with Claire Lerner, L.C.S.W., the Director of Parenting Resources at Zero to Three: National Center for Infants, Toddlers, and Families, a non-profit dedicated to promoting the healthy development and well-being of infants, toddlers, and their families. How do you deal with big reactions in a healthy way?
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