How To Not Let Your Past Define You - Scott Barry Kaufman - #947

Scott Barry Kaufman is a Psychologist at Columbia University, a writer and podcaster.

Why is victim culture so common in the West? Everyone’s been hurt, so it’s easy to claim victimhood, so why has it become a core identity and how do we honour pain without being defined by it?

Expect to learn where a victimhood mentality comes from, what predicts whether someone is likely to fall into the victimhood trap or mindset and if modern culture is contributing or incentivising victimhood, the most harmful myths around identity and trauma, how you cultivate psychological flexibility in moments of deep emotional pain, the big difference between authenticity and self-esteem, and much more…

Timestamps:

(00:00) Reconciling With Your Past (04:45) What is Victimhood Mentality? (10:26) Where Does Victim Mentality Come From? (14:30) Why is Victimhood So Seductive? (17:46) Our Feeling of Being Broken (20:28) Victimhood in Evolution (30:50) Are Genes Destiny? (37:35) The Dynamics of Epigenetics (44:46) Researching Highly Sensitive People (50:34) How to Recognise if You Are Highly Sensitive (59:19) Advice for Highly Sensitive People (01:04:56) The Role of Internally-Generated Safety (01:09:29) Links Between Self-Esteem & Victimhood (01:12:17) Accepting Your Past Without Being Ruled By It (01:14:05) Where to Find Scott

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