I asked women with a lot of friends to share their "social secrets". Here's what they said.

You know those women who seem to make friends everywhere they go? Have you ever wondered how they draw people to them so easily?

When Danielle asked her audience about their "social secrets" , more than 500 women responded-- and the patterns were hard to ignore.

In this solo episode, Danielle breaks down six themes that came up over and over again from women who have built large, joyful friendship networks. From the role of proactive initiation to the identity shifts that make connection feel natural, these mindset tips and habits will change your friendships.

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TOPICS IN THIS EPISODE:

• They initiate first, and don't keep score • They keep expectations low, especially with new and outer-circle friends • They categorize their friends by context instead of lumping everyone together • They have relational diversity, and the research says that makes them happier • They show up authentically, even if it turns some people off • They stay deeply curious about other people • They own their role as the initiator or the planner: identity over willpower

📚 EPISODE RESOURCES & REFERENCES:

Magic Words • by Jonah Berger: how identity-based language (nouns vs. verbs) drives behavior: https://www.amazon.com/Magic-Words-Jonah-Berger/dp/0063204932

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