BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko

Episodes

• 185: You Already Know What You Need to Do.Join me in The Final Round of Unbothered Woman Receive emails from me You already know what you need to do. You are just scared of what it is going to cost you. Margarita is back from her book tour in America, freshly moved into a half renovated house with two small children, and she has things to say. In this episode she shares the 10 mindset shifts that came up for her on the trip, the permissions she had to stop waiting for, and why the life you want is already inside you and has been the whole time. In this episode: 1. You are probably not confused you are just scared of the consequences 2. Stop collecting advice you already have the answer 3. Distance tells you things proximity cannot 4. Your next life requires disappointing someone from your current one 5. Stop waiting to feel ready confidence only comes after evidence 6. When you transform the old identity will fight back hard 7. Stop making permanent decisions based on temporary emotions 8. Your life changes when you stop negotiating with what you know 9. There is no future version of you coming to save you 10. Give yourself until the end of the year to prove you can do hard things If you know what you need to do but cannot bring yourself to do it, if you keep asking everyone else what you should do with your life, or if you are waiting to feel ready before you start, this one is for you. This is your sign. Lock in. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 184: The Woman Who Started Her Biggest Success At 52 — And Has Zero RegretsJoin me for the Final round of The Unbothered Woman Ever - We start October 2nd. She was a fashion editor at GQ and Allure. She built a fashion line that dressed every A list celebrity. Then covid shut it all down. And at 52 years old she started over. And built the biggest success of her entire career. In this episode Margarita sits down with Mary Alice Haney in Hollywood and has the conversation every woman in her thirties, forties and fifties needs to hear. About reinvention. About the why not me mentality. About what it actually costs to build something. We talk about how Mary went from fashion editor to founder to podcaster, why confidence is not something you wait for it is something you fake until it becomes real, what nobody tells you about balancing motherhood and ambition, why your biggest success might still be ahead of you, and why your age and your children are not the excuses you think they are. If you have ever thought you are too old, too busy, too far behind, or that the window has closed, this episode will change your mind. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 183: If This Video Doesn’t Heal Your Relationship Anxiety, Block Me.Check out Hinge Get my Book: Unbothered The Art of Letting Go to Find Yourself Join the Unbothered Woman Watch Detach My 3 Day Intensive If there is one episode you listen to this year on anxious attachment, fear of abandonment, and why you can never fully relax in a relationship, let it be this one. Your gut is not a wise little oracle. It is a nervous system shaped by everything that has ever happened to you. And if most of your experiences with love have involved pain, your gut has been calibrated to a setting that does not serve you when you are finally safe. In this episode Margarita breaks down the real difference between anxiety and intuition, why trusting your gut is damaging advice for anxiously attached women, and what to do in the moment when you genuinely cannot tell which one is speaking. In this episode: Why anxiety and intuition feel exactly the same from the inside Why trusting your gut is dangerous advice for anxious women How your nervous system scans for danger even when you are safe Why reassurance is a leaky bucket that will never fill The three question framework to tell anxiety from intuition What real intuition actually feels like vs anxious spiraling What hyper independent women do when they finally feel something real How to regulate before you react and ruin something good When to stay and when the signal is actually real What changes when you finally learn to tell the difference If you can never fully relax no matter how much he shows up, if you need certainty just to feel okay, or if you are exhausted by your own spiral and just want it to stop, this one is for you. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 182: Master Secure Attachment So Fast It Feels Like CheatingView The Feminine Energy Collection Here Join The Unbothered Woman Here If you have been trying to step into your feminine energy but everything you have followed so far has felt like a performance, doing all the right things, not texting first, being soft, letting him lead, and still feeling the same anxiety underneath because nothing you were taught actually changed how you feel on the inside, this episode is for you. In this episode I break down why the mainstream version of feminine energy is keeping you stuck in a cycle of performing for an outcome instead of actually embodying who you are, the real definition of feminine energy that no one is talking about, and the specific practices that shift you from managing every outcome to being so anchored in yourself that you never lose her again. → FREE: The Unbothered Reset: 30 Days to Become Her. Every day for 30 days, you’ll receive a short email. Start the 30-Day Reset → Unbothered: The art of letting go → The New Rules Book Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 181: 5 Brutal Truths About Why He Lost Interest (And What To Do About It)Get your copy of Unbothered, now available in the US Join the waitlist for Unbothered Woman Watch Detach Check out Hinge You are not going to like this one. And if it makes you angry, that is probably a sign you need to hear it. In this episode Margarita breaks down five things women do completely unintentionally, usually with the best intentions, that quietly push men away. Not the obvious stuff every relationship coach has already told you. The things nobody is saying. In this episode: 1. Narrating every internal state the second you feel it 2. Mothering him and collapsing the polarity without realising it 3. Making yourself too agreeable, too easy, too cool girl 4. Manufacturing jealousy instead of actually building a full life 5. Needing his validation vs valuing his opinion Whether you are in the talking stage, a long term relationship that has lost its spark, or a marriage that feels more like flatmates, one of these five is going to hit home. This is not about blame. It is about understanding why the dynamic shifts without either of you realising, until he pulls back and you have absolutely no idea what happened. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 180: Why Every Good Girl Needs an Ice Queen EraJoin Unbothered Woman Waitlist Watch Detach: My 3 Day Intensive Masterclass You have been warm to everyone. And it has exhausted you. In this episode Margarita brings back an ancient Slavic wisdom she nearly lost to western society and makes the full case for your ice queen era. Not cold for the sake of it. Not emotionally shut down. Just deeply discerning about where your warmth actually goes. Because warmth given to everyone is worth nothing. And warmth given to the right people changes everything. In this episode: 1. Warmth is valuable because it is limited 2. Coldness gives you enough distance to see reality 3. An ice queen does not react on impact 4. Being colder means you stop explaining the verdict 5. Stop mothering people who disappoint you 6. You can love someone without giving them access 7. Colder women are harder to manipulate 8. Protected softness is intimacy, unprotected softness is self abandonment 9. The cool girl and the ice queen are not the same thing 10. The goal is not to be Elsa forever, it is to be discerning If you give your warmth to everyone and get nothing back, if you over explain every boundary until it loses its power, or if you keep performing warmth even when you are genuinely hurt, this one is for you. Welcome to the ice queen era. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx Check out Hinge See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 179: Stop Being the Good Girl. Become BOSSY.Watch Detach: My 3 day intensive masterclass. They called you bossy. They called you demanding. They called you difficult. Good. In this episode Margarita makes the full case for being self led, why women are trained from childhood to outsource their own lives to other people's comfort, and why the burnout, brain fog and confusion so many women are feeling right now is coming from one place. You have stopped leading yourself. In this episode: 1. Self led women know what they want and are not afraid to say it 2. We are taught as little girls that being easy is rewarded 3. Being self led is not controlling others it is running your own life 4. Indecisiveness is one of the most expensive things you can do to yourself 5. Confidence looks bossy when people are not used to it 6. Women apologize before they even finish the thought 7. The fear is not of being bossy it is the fear of rejection 8. Every successful woman has been called bossy at some point 9. Someone is always steering your life if it is not you 10. What would you do if nobody was watching and nobody cared If you say I do not mind so often you have forgotten what you do mind, if you apologize before you even finish the thought, or if you feel like you are living someone else's version of your life, this one is for you bossy girl. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 178: Emotional Independence Will Change Your LifeWatch Detach, my 3 day intensive masterclass here. Every man's ex is crazy. Have you noticed that? In this episode Margarita reclaims the word crazy and breaks down why emotional sovereignty is one of the most powerful things a woman can develop, why the cool girl performance is slowly killing you, and why feeling your emotions deeply is not your weakness. It is your greatest asset. In this episode: 1. Emotions are information not instructions to act 2. Emotional independence means stopping expecting others to regulate you 3. A regulated woman still cries and still gets angry 4. Stop treating every feeling like an emergency 5. Femininity is not emotional chaos it is leading your own emotions 6. Learn the difference between intuition and activation 7. Peace is not something a man gives you it is something you build 8. Stop outsourcing your self worth 9. Emotional maturity is the most attractive thing you can develop 10. The goal is not crazy amounts of happiness it is stability and joy If you have been called crazy for having a completely valid reaction, if you suppress your emotions just to seem cool, or if you are handing your emotional regulation to everyone around you, this one is for you. Welcome to emotional sovereignty. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 177: Stop Being Low Maintenance. It’s Making You Easy to Ignore.Watch Unbothered 3 Day Intensive Here You have been trying so hard to be easy. Easy going. Easy to love. No requirements. No fuss. And yet here you are. In this episode Margarita makes the full case for being high maintenance and why the women who know what they want, ask for it unapologetically, and refuse to shrink themselves are the ones who get everything. In this episode: 1. High maintenance is just a person who knows themselves 2. We are taught as little girls that being easy is rewarded 3. Low maintenance often becomes emotional dishonesty 4. How can a man meet the needs he does not know exist 5. Stop confusing standards with entitlement 6. The psychology of self silencing and why it kills relationships 7. Your needs are not problems, they are preferences 8. The fear of being high maintenance comes from a scarcity mindset 9. The healthiest women are actually quite specific 10. Stop trying to be easy to love because it does not exist If you have been making yourself small so people will like you more, pretending to be fine when you are not, or following him around and forgetting to have preferences of your own, this one is for you. Welcome to the high maintenance club. Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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• 176: The More Useful You Are, The Less You’re ValuedUNBOTHERED 3 Day Intensive The more you do for him the more he will love you. That is what they told you. That is wrong. In this episode Margarita breaks down the psychology of why making yourself useful is actually costing you the love, respect and value you are trying to earn.T his one is going to change how you show up in every relationship in your life. In this episode: 1. Women are taught that love is earned through usefulness 2. The IKEA effect and why effort creates value 3. Stop robbing men of the chance to contribute 4. Useful is not memorable, it just fades into the background 5. Being needed and being loved are not the same thing 6. Every yes teaches people what to expect from you 7. Difficulty creates investment, not manipulation 8. Being low maintenance becomes self abandonment 9. Make people earn access to you through standards not games 10. Become unforgettable, not indispensable If you do everything and still do not feel valued, if you have made yourself so convenient you have disappeared, or if you are needed but not truly chosen, this one is for you. Get your copy of Unbothered Book Being Her is your no filter space for woman empowerment, relationship advice, confidence, feminine energy, and living life completely on your own terms. Love you lots like jelly tots xx See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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