In this episode, you'll learn:
Why women connect past and present experiences while men focus only on what's happening now
The brain science behind women's ability to read nonverbal cues (and why this superpower can sometimes bite us in the ass)
Real strategies to work WITH your brain differences instead of fighting against them
Ever feel like you and your partner are speaking totally different languages? Like you're saying words in plain English but somehow they're not computing on the other side? True story from my life: My husband comes back from trips, drops his suitcase on our bedroom floor, and... that's it. The damn thing sits there for weeks, clothes spilling out like some kind of fabric explosion. Last month after his third trip, I lost it: "This happens EVERY SINGLE TIME you travel! The suitcase becomes furniture!" His response? Complete confusion. "Why bring up other trips? I just got home yesterday."
This isn't a character flaw. It's brain wiring. And I'm not the only one dealing with this disconnect. When I talk about this with my female friends, they instantly get it. They also connect past events with current ones - not because they're holding grudges, but because their brains naturally link related experiences together.
Here's what we're told: "Good communicators stay present and don't bring up past issues." But what if your brain is literally built to connect patterns across time? What if that's not immaturity but your actual neural wiring?
Today our guest is Steven Furlich. He's a professor who's studied gender communication through both social science and biology lenses. After seeing the same patterns across different cultures and time periods, he started looking at brain structure and hormones to understand why these differences stick around no matter how much society changes.
Links from the episode:
Show Notes: mindlove.com/398
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