Do Ask, Do Tell: Queer Life, Love and Culture Laid Bare

A glorious, rollercoaster ride through LGBTQ+ life, love and culture.

What’s the difference between bisexual and pansexual? Why does gender evoke such divisiveness? What happens to older queers, and what does it mean to be femme, masc or camp? What’s a darkroom, and why do people like them?

Writers Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley - your intrepid queer explorers - are here to answer these questions and so many more, as they navigate the rich tapestry of LGBTQ+ life, for queer and cis straight people alike. A nuanced insight into all of the things you've often wondered about but have maybe been afraid to ask for fear of ‘getting it wrong’, Do Ask. Do Tell asks big questions and uncovers even bigger truths.

Ageing, HIV, open relationships, religion, body dysmorphia, hedonism: Lotte and Stu go there - literally and metaphorically as they hit the frontline of queer experiences, and head so far outside of their own comfort zones along the way they need more than a pair of ruby slippers to get them home. They go from sticky dance floors and drag shows to churches, schools, retirement homes and exclusive underground sex parties. As a cis-gay man and gender-queer lesbian the authors know that their own lived experience represents the equivalent of a single pixel of the rainbow and they want to know more. Don’t you?

Think of this book as an unboxing of the all unconventional and unapologetic queerness that exists within our ranks because there is no right or wrong way to be LGBTQ+. We contain multitudes and understanding this is the only way we will survive the challenges of the next decade.

© 2025 Bluebird (Lydbog): 9781035042081

Release date

Lydbog: 29. maj 2025