011: Sahar Martinez — Getting Your Groove Back In Your Marriage After Kids

Ever since we had our baby, my husband and I are at odds with each other. It’s like he’s my roommate and not my partner anymore. We just co exist. We never have time to sit down and talk. And when we do talk, it’s about laundry list items pertaining to the kids like - can you order more diapers or by the way, baby has his doctor’s appointment tomorrow. Every little argument snowballs into a fight. It feels like we’re constantly bickering. I don’t even want to talk about how long it’s been since we’ve been intimate. I’ve lost track of how many months it’s been. Why are my kids ruining my marriage??” -Dazed and Confused, New York, NY If this sounds like you -- don’t worry. All couples go through this transition after they bring kids into their life. Priorities change and time is limited. I am doing this episode because I want to ensure you have the tools to reconnect with your partner and get your marriage back on track. On today’s episode, I am joined by Marriage and Family Therapist Sahar Martinez. She says the process of healing often leads to deeper understanding of ourselves and our relationships. She works collaboratively with her clients, creating a safe, healing, therapeutic space that allows for growth and change. She offers an integrative approach to therapy, tailored to your unique needs. She specializes in working with individuals, couples and families struggling with issues related to trauma, grief, depression, anxiety, and major life changes, like having a baby. She says the challenges we face as we move through various phases of life can seem overwhelming and isolating. It doesn't have to be this way. She truly believes that each individual possesses the power within to live to their highest potential, and she’s here to support your journey to a place of hope, compassion and self love. About My Guest:

WEBSITE: SaharMartinez.com

TWITTER: @SaharMartinez

INSTAGRAM: @saharmartinezmft

FACEBOOK: @Saharmartinezmft

Show Notes:

1:22 — Excerpt from one of my listeners

6:19 — Biological responses

10:47 — Making time

15:50 — Setting boundaries

17:25 — Money

22:24 — Agreeing on how to raise children

28:00 — How to explain arguments to children

37:50 — Products

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